Tuesday, May 5, 2020

Note: It's Your Prerogative To Choose Your Close Friends.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 You're displaying self-care, not arrogance, when you detach yourself from negative and toxic "frenemies" who, instead of inspiring you to become a better Muslim, only cause your level of faith/Imaan to drastically decrease. Rather than encouraging you to do Da'wah for Allah's sake, they claim you're just "promoting yourself, so stay quiet" and instead of supporting your halal business, promoting it so you can have more customers who prefer halal products over ones that are uncertain, they secretly hope that your income and profits only get lesser.

You want a pious friend who can encourage you to reconcile with your struggling husband, to accept his apology and persevere in marriage patiently, instead of one who instantly demands that you ditch him because you can always remarry.
A friend who reminds you to fear Allah upon hearing you backbite about another Muslim is more deserving of your Du'as and affection than one who adds hilarious statements to your jokes, merely gaining others' sins due to childish backbiting.
If someone's presence doesn't benefit you at all in your Deen and their companionship isn't helpful for your well-being, you're seriously better off without them, while still answering their salaams if you do bump into each other at social gatherings.
You need a sincere friend who can motivate you to love Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala more, not one who makes you doubt yourself and question your existence. You require like-minded companions who can help you in your journey to Jannatul Ferdaus, genuine friends who never envy your achievements nor obnoxiously suspect your intentions.
If righteous friends are difficult to find in your area, be content with seclusion and spending more quality time with Allah the Most Merciful Who wants to train you to be more patient through encountering certain people's rejection. As long as you strive to obey Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and you always have Allah, you'll never feel lonesome. Isolation while being loved by Allah is more rewarding than forcing yourself to like incompatible, unsupportive and enviously critical persons who are only a bad influence.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi