💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 A younger sister in Islam asked me a question concerning the issue of masturbation or touching oneself for sexual pleasure. It reminded me of that time when one of my high school students had the courage to ask about it in front of many students, some of whom looked so uncomfortable when it was mentioned. So this problem is actually more common than we think, especially among those who are still single.
Some of the things which lead one to masturbate:
1] Watching inappropriate videos and movies with sex scenes so filthy images are stuck in one's mind for some time.
2] Waking up from a sexual dream, typically caused by shaytan's evil suggestions or innermost desires of one's nafs.
3] Constantly thinking of the person or individuals whom one is "in love with" and using masturbation as a means to relieve sexual tension.
Solution:
1] Do Tawbah and reconnect with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. The stronger your connection is with Allah the Almighty, the more you're willing to obey His Orders, and avoiding sins becomes easy gradually.
2] Willingly remove yourself from any obstacle and distraction that keep you away from Allah Subhaanahau wa Ta'aala. Among the obstacles you should avoid as much as possible are: addiction to music and love songs, obsession with porn or erotic stories, fruitless attachments to people whose presence or companionship do not add positive value to your faith/Imaan.
3] Instead of actively fantasizing and imagining being with the person you have a crush on, replace those indecent thoughts with Dhikr, Istighfaar, and regular words of remembrance of Allah, sincere Du'a, Qur'an recitation, knowledge that there are Angels assigned to record your actions, and awareness that death can come anytime.
4] Ask yourself, would you rather die and meet Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while you're doing a good deed, like reading some pages from the Noble Qur'an, or while doing something that could intensify your desire to commit zina/fornication and which shows one may lack self-control such as masturbating?
5] Marriage is where you can have your sexual urges satisfied lawfully, as long as intercourse is not anal sex nor is the love-making done while the wife is in her monthly period. If you are unable to get married for now, practice self-discipline by fasting often, particularly every other Monday and Thursday, after this blessed month of Ramadan.
By avoiding food and drink while fasting for Allah's sake, we increase in Taqwa and our ability to abandon haraam/forbidden deeds is strengthened. If you can stay away from eating and drinking in the daytime while fasting, there is more reasons for you as a Muslim to abstain from committing major and minor sins like backbiting, deliberately telling lies and masturbating. Also, evaluate yourself, "Would you be willing to masturbate in front of your own parents, teachers and acquaintances? If not, then why would you want to do it when Allah the All-Knowing is always above us watching?"
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Masturbation and its Effect on Worship - By Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GOaGzBX4-V4
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves, as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287, Sahih Muslim 127
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whomever Allah protects from the evil between his jaws and his legs, he will enter Paradise."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2409
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, get married. Verily, it lowers the gaze and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast as it will restrain his passions."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806, Sahih Muslim 1400
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim