Tuesday, June 30, 2020

Note: 3 Ways To React When Insulted

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 If someone makes an offensive remark about your looks, jokes about your current weight in a way that is intended to insult you, or intentionally says something insulting to get a reaction out of you, you have three ways to respond:
1] Ask them a rhetorical question like "Is that your tactic of emphasizing you're jealous and insecure? Or are you trying to imply that you had a miserable upbringing, which explains why you lack good character?", "Are you describing yourself? What do you gain by saying those awful nonsense?", or "What? Please repeat that. And? Your point is? Are you done demonstrating how your manners are so low?" to assist them in rethinking what they said.
2] Be patient, ignore their lame insults that indirectly reflect their own self-hate, and walk away from their negative vibes. Consider them as merely an acquaintance or stranger whom you are no longer interested in getting close to. Maintain basic courtesy with them, and do not let their impudent misbehavior lower your morals.
3] Agree with them as though their contemptuous slurs didn't impact you at all. Example: If told "You are ( insert adjective here that is meant to offend you )" answer with "Yeah I need to work on that. Thanks for pointing it out." or "She is so etc." when you walk away, turn around and say "Yes you're right. Do you have any tips so I can improve myself? I didn't know that criticizing people and giving advice were your hobbies."
In general as a Muslim you don't need to carry out revenge on those who insulted, mistreated or expressed their envious hatred towards you when you are aware that Allah's Justice always prevails at the most befitting time.  When some gossip and backbite about you, rather than copying their obnoxious conduct so there are two impolite idiots instead of one, earn rewards by striving to practice patience for Allah's sake. Sensing that a user posted a ridiculous status update on their timeline ranting about how weird or ignorant you are isn't an invitation for you to post your own passive-aggressive message. Simply unfollow them on social media and avoid interacting unnecessarily with those who can't add any significant value in your life and faith/Imaan.
Encountering haters, critics and troublemakers doesn't indicate you're not loved by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala but He loves you so much that He wants to strengthen your ability to have Sabr and upgrade your status in Jannah Inn-sha-Allah.
The beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, the best of all human beings, was considered as a "magician", "liar" or "lunatic" by a number of hypocrites and unbelievers yet he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam didn't address those disbelievers with derogatory names.
Be better than your opponents and rivals by maintaining noble manners for Allah's sake sincerely, and refuse to participate in immature tit-for-tat games.
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abdullah bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If two people exchange harsh words, it is against the instigator (the person who started the fight) as long as the wronged one does not transgress."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2587
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim