Saturday, June 27, 2020

Note: If You Have Good Intentions You Don't Marry "The Wrong Person".

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Unless a woman purposely agreed to marry a guy who got released from jail or he's known for having committed innumerable crimes in the past, I don't believe that you, as a Muslim with good intention, end up marrying "the wrong person".
When Allah the Most Wise destines to give you a husband, it's your duty together with your soulmate to design the kind of love life that you want. If an art teacher gives you an empty sheet of paper to sketch on, it is irrational to blame them for giving you the wrong kind of paper if you're the one who lacks creative imagination, artistic abilities or at least patient willingness to learn some drawing skills.
Just as there are different kinds of artwork and forms of expressing oneself creatively, there are a wide variety of romantic journeys and love stories which aren't applicable for everybody equally. A lover may be completely fine loving her spouse from a distance, so a long-distance marriage doesn't worry her in the least. Another wife's temperament necessitates that she secludes herself once in a while, so she has no problem with seeing her husband just once a week or bimonthly. While these married couples enjoy love-making a lot and they're blessed with several pious children, other husbands and wives are contented with Allah's Qadr/Destiny in not having kids. Some wives are open to polygyny while others prefer to reserve their husbands for themselves only.
Getting married is one of the many tests from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala which requires lots of rewarding patience/Sabr, gratitude/Shukr and sincere efforts to keep progressing in order for you to pass this temporary examination. Not all exams are entirely similar. So passing a test makes it necessary that you utilize the means that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala granted you, among which are wisdom, the capacity to analyze the advantages and disadvantages of each circumstance, and the freewill to seek Allah's Guidance to do what you believe is the most fruitful decision that can
 Inn-sha-Allah generate a positive outcome, which is more likely to occur if you prayed Salat Al-Istikhaarah prior to selecting an option.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials (fitna) on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani