Note: Words Of Comfort To Adult Orphans

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 It can be really sad and disheartening to see your mother or father in a dream and upon waking up you realize they're not in your present life anymore. You no longer hear the angry yet caring scoldings of your father whenever he tried to correct your wrongs, or his inspiring talks at the dinner table when the family gathered together. You deeply miss the delicious dishes that your dear mother cooked with her tireless hands, her comforting advice that helped you in self-development and her warm concerns whenever she noticed you weren't feeling well. Each time you see an elderly person, you're reminded of how nice it would be if your parents were still alive so you can earn the immense rewards of sincerely respecting and taking care of them for Allah's sake.
Unpleasant guilt can often creep into those who feel as though they didn't serve their parents enough, who resent how they weren't able to say goodbye before their parents were buried, who experience depressive feelings when they recall how their parent/s couldn't attend their wedding or graduation ceremony, who cry at the thought of seeing their kids grow up without compassionate grandparents, and who become sadly nostalgic when they remember the memorable times they've had with the wonderful souls who brought them up well and educated them on Islam and good character.
🔹Tips on how to deal with feeling low or despondent as an adult orphan:
1] Remember that your parents, just as yourself and every other living being, belong to Allah the Almighty Who has the right to return whatever belongs to Him anytime. Patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny instead of miserably wishing your parents lived a longer life.
2] Be grateful Alhamdulillah that you at least witnessed your parents raise you until your teenage years. A lot of children have to deal with the struggle of being orphaned at a very young age, many of them not knowing what it's like to receive the affection of a protective parent.
3] Feel contented and relieved to know that you are not like those disobedient children who sent their parents to an 'old age home' or 'senior care residence', expecting strangers to be caregivers of the people who raised them since they were born.
4] There have been numerous news in the past and cases where a teenager or adult was imprisoned for killing their parent/s over some worldly-related issue. I still can't forget that case when I was a teen back in Saudi Arabia where a young man shot his parents while they were sleeping just because they wouldn't give him enough freedom to enjoy life his own way. Be thankful you weren't that sort of burden to your parents.
5] Express gratitude to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that your parents were not alcoholics, drug addicts, criminals, and intentionally abusive narcissists. Other kids around the world are frequently being neglected and abused by their misguided parents. Alhamdulillah you didn't go through such abuse.
6] Take opportunity to gain more rewards whenever you miss your mother and/or father to mention them in your loving Du'as, particularly when you're fasting or praying Tahajjud at night. Pray to Allah the Most Merciful that He forgives your parents, accepts their good deeds, protects them from entering Hell, increase the good deeds in their account through charity done on their behalf, and supplicate that Jannah Paradise is where you can finally reunite.
7] Demonstrate extra kindness and generosity towards orphans, especially young orphan Muslims. Being affectionate, helpful and endearing to them can compensate for whatever shortcoming you've had concerning your parents in the previous years. Let your parents' death pleasantly inspire you to be stronger through being more generous, kindhearted, tolerant, forgiving, and understanding towards others for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
Note: Rather than uploading photos of your parents on social media and writing indirect letters to them which they can't read, you can honor them for Allah's sake by praying for them daily, doing charity or performing Hajj/'Umrah on their behalf, and by not willfully abandoning the people whom they cared about during their lifetime, steadfastly guiding their relatives to Islam and if possible encouraging them to be the best Muslims whom Allah wants us to be.
Today Jumuah Friday before Salat Al-Maghreb include your parents and the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah the Almighty will raise the status of His righteous servants in Paradise and they will say: 'O Allah, what is this?' Allah will say: 'This is due to your child seeking forgiveness for you.'"
Source: Musnad Ahmed 10232
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani