Tuesday, July 14, 2020

Note: We Can't Like Nor Judge What We Don't Know

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Among the most unjust things that some people do is instantly judging a person based on false rumors being spread about them. We could at least investigate and ascertain that the complaints against them are justifiable, rather than abruptly boycotting them once we're told of something they did, which they probably didn't do or had to do but with a valid reason.
We can't accuse so-and-so of being a "pathological liar" if they disappointed us one time or we're the ones rejecting the validity of their excuses.
Describing someone as "miserly", "selfish" or "useless freeloader who's taking advantage of your friendship" is unfair if you refuse to understand that person's side of the story. Did it ever occur to you that they probably couldn't return your generosity because they're temporarily struggling financially? Or just when you wrongly regard them as obnoxious ingrates, they actually mention your name profusely in their loving Du'as while you're sound asleep.
It is not right to criticize another Muslim when we barely even spoke to them.
"Don't support them, they're 'Ikhwaani'", "Stop communicating with that woman, she's a former gangsta.", and "You don't want to befriend him, he's everything you don't want to be." are few examples of nonsensical warnings we're likely to receive from those who claim to care about our well-being, warning us without accurate evidence and tangible proofs to defend their accusations.
🔸 It is reasonable to describe somebody as such-and-such, because we're acquainted enough with them, if we:
1] Talked to them numerous times face to face, rather than evaluating them by their social media posts. And by "talk" I mean actually talking, conversing, discussing ideas, swapping valuable advice, extending sympathy, sharing news, and exchanging personal information that bring you closer together, not merely "how are you? I'm fine."
2] Traveled with them, had a memorable sleepover with them, or went outdoors with them several times, so we were able to observe how special, helpful and caring they are.
3] Have been familiar with them for at least three years. It's unreasonable to consider a stranger as a "best friend" or subject whom you can thoroughly analyze if you've only known them for a number of months.
Also acknowledge that rumors about a Muslim are usually disseminated by:
1] Jealous haters who had a falling out with them or who feel threatened by their positive vibes.
2] Hateful critics who insecurely loathe their good qualities or who denounce what they're calling to.
3] Insecure strangers who don't know them at all yet they verbally bulldoze them to pacify their insecurities.
Oftentimes what we may guess about another Muslim isn't their actual description, but those untruthful assumptions are shaytan's evil suggestions, designed to keep you away from forming a connection that has possibilities of strengthening your faith/Imaan.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719, Sahih Muslim 2563
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim