💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 When you and certain friends begin to drift apart, you can either make effort to save the friendship and keep it alive, or allow the connection to deteriorate since trying to salvage it seems impossible.
🔸 Signs that it's okay to let a "friend" walk away, as they don't deserve to be chased:
1] Overall they have been a toxic friend. They get jealous of you easily, they regard you as competition, and they never seem to be genuinely supportive of your hobbies, projects or halal business.
2] They clearly distract you from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. They're excessively materialistic and too attached to dunya. When you attempt to invite them to attend an Islamic lecture online or offline, they decline your invitation constantly because they're preoccupied with some worldly matters studying Netflix, memorizing song lyrics or browsing a catalogue of their favorite branded items on sale.
3] Until now you haven't found common ground. Peace of mind is unattainable if you forcibly converse with someone who is completely different from you and whose personality tends to clash uncomfortably with yours.
4] They're as useless in your life as troublesome mosquitoes. Nothing beneficial, productive and useful can be gained by accompanying them in their journeys. Their companionship doesn't improve your living circumstances nor can their presence inspire you to be a more well-developed Muslim. Better to benefit from reading self-help books than maintaining awkward conversations with an unrelatable person.
5] Chilling with them only results in decreasing the level of your faith/Imaan, especially since they have an awful habit of gossiping about others, they've told you lies purposely numerous times, or they simply show no interest whatsoever in joining you to learn more about Islam.
🔸 When can you patiently wait for the tension to cool off and see what you can do to strengthen your friendship, because this bond is actually worth saving for Allah's sake:
1] You both share the exact same goals in life - to be among those who are granted entry to Jannatul Ferdaus, who get to meet Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, and who attain Allah's Love by loving what and whom He loves, particularly His beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam through striving to adhere to the Prophet's Sunnah.
2] You've known each other for several years and started an Islamic project together for Allah's sake. Don't let one trivial argument mess up the special friendship which took sincere efforts and a long time to make.
3] You feel at ease, whether when you're with them or when they're not around. They're not the kind of tactless critic who could criticize you and offend you anytime, nor are they the type of insecure frenemy who loves to spread rumors and backbite.
4] They return favors, reciprocate and express gratitude. The friendship is not one-sided at all. Occasionally you find them supporting you on social media or taking initiative to talk to you, instead of you being the main one who's interactive.
5] Befriending them brings you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Indirectly and directly they motivate you to become a stronger Muslim. Departing from a pious friend who tried their best to care for you and refusing to give them another chance could later on lead to feeling regretful, as though something significant from your life story is missing. Anyhow doing anything purely for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, whether you decide to pursue a friendship or cancel it, can prevent you from regretting.
📖 Mu’adh ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty said: 'Those who love each other for the sake of My Glory will be upon pulpits of light, admired by the Prophets and the martyrs.'”
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2390
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Mu’adh ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty said: 'My Love is guaranteed for those who love each other for My sake, who sit together for My sake, who visit each other for My sake, and who spend on each other for My sake.'”
Source: Musnad Ahmed 21525
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
💌 When you and certain friends begin to drift apart, you can either make effort to save the friendship and keep it alive, or allow the connection to deteriorate since trying to salvage it seems impossible.
🔸 Signs that it's okay to let a "friend" walk away, as they don't deserve to be chased:
1] Overall they have been a toxic friend. They get jealous of you easily, they regard you as competition, and they never seem to be genuinely supportive of your hobbies, projects or halal business.
2] They clearly distract you from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. They're excessively materialistic and too attached to dunya. When you attempt to invite them to attend an Islamic lecture online or offline, they decline your invitation constantly because they're preoccupied with some worldly matters studying Netflix, memorizing song lyrics or browsing a catalogue of their favorite branded items on sale.
3] Until now you haven't found common ground. Peace of mind is unattainable if you forcibly converse with someone who is completely different from you and whose personality tends to clash uncomfortably with yours.
4] They're as useless in your life as troublesome mosquitoes. Nothing beneficial, productive and useful can be gained by accompanying them in their journeys. Their companionship doesn't improve your living circumstances nor can their presence inspire you to be a more well-developed Muslim. Better to benefit from reading self-help books than maintaining awkward conversations with an unrelatable person.
5] Chilling with them only results in decreasing the level of your faith/Imaan, especially since they have an awful habit of gossiping about others, they've told you lies purposely numerous times, or they simply show no interest whatsoever in joining you to learn more about Islam.
🔸 When can you patiently wait for the tension to cool off and see what you can do to strengthen your friendship, because this bond is actually worth saving for Allah's sake:
1] You both share the exact same goals in life - to be among those who are granted entry to Jannatul Ferdaus, who get to meet Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, and who attain Allah's Love by loving what and whom He loves, particularly His beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam through striving to adhere to the Prophet's Sunnah.
2] You've known each other for several years and started an Islamic project together for Allah's sake. Don't let one trivial argument mess up the special friendship which took sincere efforts and a long time to make.
3] You feel at ease, whether when you're with them or when they're not around. They're not the kind of tactless critic who could criticize you and offend you anytime, nor are they the type of insecure frenemy who loves to spread rumors and backbite.
4] They return favors, reciprocate and express gratitude. The friendship is not one-sided at all. Occasionally you find them supporting you on social media or taking initiative to talk to you, instead of you being the main one who's interactive.
5] Befriending them brings you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Indirectly and directly they motivate you to become a stronger Muslim. Departing from a pious friend who tried their best to care for you and refusing to give them another chance could later on lead to feeling regretful, as though something significant from your life story is missing. Anyhow doing anything purely for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, whether you decide to pursue a friendship or cancel it, can prevent you from regretting.
📖 Mu’adh ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty said: 'Those who love each other for the sake of My Glory will be upon pulpits of light, admired by the Prophets and the martyrs.'”
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2390
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Mu’adh ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty said: 'My Love is guaranteed for those who love each other for My sake, who sit together for My sake, who visit each other for My sake, and who spend on each other for My sake.'”
Source: Musnad Ahmed 21525
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim