💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 If you answered 'yes Alhamdulillah' to someone's question, "Are you happy with your marriage?" and they reacted with "But why? Your husband isn't that handsome. There are other guys who are way more good-looking than him. He doesn't give you the full attention and love which you deserve. Your accomodation is awful. Your husband isn't spending enough time with your kids. I think he's too immature for you, and you are worth much more than patiently putting up with him. Plus you're both clearly incompatible and not on the same wavelength. Find someone who's as amazing, inspiring and ambitious as you." What would your actual reaction be?
You could respond with "you know, you're right. There are plenty of fish in the sea. I can easily ditch him, search for an ideal match on a matrimonial website and hopefully spot a rich Arab guy who can make me happy. I don't mind being his third or fourth wife since I'm completely okay with polygyny." or you could come up with a better answer and maintain your positive attitude, saying something like, "I already told you, I'm happy with my marriage. Alhamdulillah, in fact, I'm better than happy; I'm contented, grateful and satisfied with what Allah the Almighty chose for me. Even if you were to bribe me with an enormous sum of cash so I could demand for a divorce, I would never accept such ridiculous negotiation because I have always genuinely loved my husband ever since Allah the Most Wise connected our souls to become husband and wife. He's my other half whose numerous favors, gifts, efforts, loving gestures and companionship I wholeheartedly cherish and appreciate for Allah's sake. Unlike other people, my husband doesn't scornfully judge or look down on my flaws, defects, and imperfections. Through him Alhamdulillah I've learned to be more tolerant, understanding, compassionate, resilient, forgiving, steadfastly persistent, and patient. I'll always love my husband for Allah's sake, even if our marriage life doesn't measure up to the standards of those who are overly materialistic. I married my spouse to complete the other half of my religion to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, to raise a righteous Muslim family together seeking to reunite in Jannah, and to preserve modesty so my being 'married' is also a shield from haraam relationships and fitna. I'm not staying with my husband because I want his money or to enjoy the status of being 'the perfect wife', but I remain loyal because loving him for Allah's sake necessitates that I want him to come with me to Jannah Paradise, where happiness and desires can be enjoyed with divine everlasting perfection. Whether he became paralyzed, lost his job, turned into the black sheep in his community, got into a serious accident so he is unable to remember me, or even if he was sent to jail or had to be employed in a faraway country, I refuse to give up on our love that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decreed. Fake connections can instantly break, while it's difficult to forget and detach from a love that is real."
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Narrated Abu Sa`eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: On Eid-ul-Fitr or Eid-ul-Adha, Allah's Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms (charity). He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Mas`ud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Messenger! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ud. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas`ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Ibn Mas`ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 1462
In-book reference: Book 24, Hadith 65
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 24, Hadith 541