Thursday, October 15, 2020

Tips: Five Types Of People We Can Avoid For Allah's Sake And Five Not To Ignore

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five types of people whom we should avoid for Allah's sake to preserve our emotional and spiritual well-being, and five kinds of persons we mustn't ignore:
Those whom we do not need to pay close attention to:
1] Vloggers, social media influencers or acquaintances whose public activities, vlogs, photos or vibes drain your energy and make you doubt the blessings that Allah the Almighty chose to give you. Realize there's a difference between someone purposely trying to make you jealous and somebody whose grateful attitude for what they have makes you insecure. Nevertheless you have a right to focus on the gifts that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gave you instead of closely observing others' "seemingly perfect" lives.
2] People who obviously enjoy gossiping and backbiting about other individuals, even if their bad motive is to playfully joke or entertain their insecurities.
3] Untrustworthy people who have intentionally lied to you several times, knowingly stole from you, or you can sense they're secretly envious of you. Better to have a conversation with ants or butterflies that won't misuse the information you told them than to chat with deceitful frenemies whom you can't rely on.
4] Troublemaking jokesters and morally incompetent clowns who find ridiculous enjoyment in making fun of others. You can't take them seriously because they're obsessed with joking offensively and teasing inappropriately. Better to be considered as "killjoy" by disrespectful goofballs yet your faith/Imaan is stable than lower your morals to satisfy problematic individuals.
5] People who instantly criticize you without being fully acquainted with you, or who automatically judge you as being "judgmental" when you're only trying to protect yourself by choosing your friends carefully, "self-righteous" when you're carrying out your duty for Allah's sake in enjoining what is right, and a "show-off" or "self-promoting narcissist" when you're striving to generously remind others to be the best Muslims they can be for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
🌻 Five categories of persons who deserve close attention:
1] Your mother and father when they give advice, warnings or commands (as long as they don't order you to disobey Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).
2] People who sincerely advise you to fear Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala regardless of how old they are.
3] The ustadh/ustadha, teacher and lecturer explaining a valuable lesson or delivering an important speech.
4] Your spouse, child, sibling, loved one and friends whom you care about for Allah's sake when they ask for advice, assistance or support in a good cause.
5] Your intuition or gut feeling that is a gift from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. If you can feel that what you're about to do is wrong or illogical, then abstain from it for Allah's sake. Similarly if you have a strong feeling that being too friendly with a certain person can lead to trouble, then minimize interaction with them for Allah's sake as much as possible.
📖 Abu Barzah Al-Aslami RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “O you who have faith with their tongues but faith has not entered their hearts! Do not backbite the Muslims or seek their faults. Whoever seeks their faults, Allah will seek his faults. And if Allah seeks his faults, He will expose him even in the privacy of his own house.

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4880

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125, Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Ali ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him.”

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani