Monday, October 12, 2020

Tips: Know When To Refrain From Asking Personal Questions

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 From the signs of trustworthy friends: They respect your need for privacy at certain times, they understand you're not required to disclose all the personal details of who you were in the past, and they don't compel you to reveal everything that happens to you in your life. Questions like "When was the last time you and your husband did it? How often do you make love? With lights on or off?", "What kind of adult websites did you enjoy browsing when you were a teen?" and "Why did you move to different schools a lot?" wouldn't be asked by a decent person who knows when to mind their own business and give you some space.

° Three instances when it's better to refrain from asking a personal question:

1) If the answer you receive will not benefit you at all in this world and the afterlife. 

2) If their response could lead you or them to trouble, or their reply is a potential topic for gossip.

3) If the reason for asking is to collect information which you plan to use against them.

You can be good friends with another Muslim without needing to pry into topics which they're not comfortable discussing with just anyone. Knowing a lot about someone isn't always essential to build intimate friendships. It is possible for two persons to be close because they have many similar interests, share common qualities, and mutually help each other become better Muslims for Allah's sake without nosily interfering with matters which do not concern them.

📖 Ali ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him.”

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani