Sunday, June 7, 2020

Note: Tips On How To Avoid Staying Hurt

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Seven ways to recover from hurt feelings or how to stay firm as a Muslim despite being hated by some critics:
1] Remember your main goal is to please Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not to adjust yourself to satisfy His servants' demands and different expectations.
2] As long as you live your life according to what Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam want, instead of behaving to suit people's standards, you shouldn't worry about their criticism and false accusations.
3] Insulting remarks, offensive slurs and misconduct intended to trigger intense reactions usually come from a person who is either intensely jealous of you or who's low-key insecure. Understand where they're coming from. Realize their unjustified rudeness is due to the fact they could be emotionally disturbed or jealously threatened. So patiently release yourself from their negative vibes, and don't be affected by their ignorant attitude.
4] They have absolutely no valid reason to judge you because:
A) They're complete strangers who don't fully know you.
B) They don't pay your bills nor did they give birth to you. In other words, since they have nothing positive to contribute in your life, you mustn't invest any emotion on them. Rather than feeling offended by something they did or said, be grateful Alhamdulillah that you are not like them in lacking good manners or having awfully low self-esteem.
C) They too aren't 100% perfect. The Only True Judge in both worlds is Allah the Most Wise Who sees everyone and what they go through.
5] Let their injustice, deceit, betrayal, offense, and rejection remind you to trust Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. No matter how badly some individuals have treated you, strive to remain patient for Allah's sake, say Du'a and observe Allah's Justice take place at the time He knows is most befitting.
6] You can either visualize the toxic individual being a patient from a mental hospital who doesn't have any idea of their wrongful treatment towards you. Thus try to tolerate them patiently, and distance yourself from their negativity. Or you can see them as a wild beast who violently pounced on you once when you tried to approach them. A significant lesson you've learned is to never attempt to befriend or confide in them again, since they're capable of showing aggression.
7] Quit stalking their social media accounts or timelines on Facebook if you used to be friends, so you don't have to stumble upon any of their hateful posts directed at you indirectly. Once you've realized that someone's companionship does more harm than benefit, you're better off not knowing what goes on in their life.
Courageously have enough self-respect to detach yourself from those who act as annoying obstacles along the way to Paradise, while you have forgiven them for Allah's sake, from inside.
Forgiving people doesn't always mean exposing yourself to the wrong kind of "friends" who are harmful for you, but you let go of the heavy load of resentment against them, stop plotting revenge, which develops your well-being, and trust that Allah the Most Loving will be the One to deal justly with His creation, if not in this temporal dunya then on the Day of Judgment.
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me: "Young man, if you are able every morning and evening to remove any rancor (grudges, hatred or jealousy) from your heart towards anyone, do so."
Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me:
"Young man, that is my Sunnah. Whoever revives my Sunnah has loved me, and whoever loves me will be with me in Paradise."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2678
Grade: Hasan