💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Obsessively rewinding unforgettable memories of past mistakes can lead to remorse and depression. Nothing positive can be gained by saying statements like "If only I never said those words and uploaded that status update, we would've still been friends.", "If only I attended the annual family reunion, I could've shared an important message with my relatives and not be so distant from them.", and "If only I never told her that one secret, these awful rumors wouldn't have spread."
Scolding yourself harshly for something you were unable to identify correctly, for deciding on what you felt so sure of that time, or for making an innocent mistake doesn't help you in any way nor does it improve a situation.
There is no use in crying over spilled milk when what has happened already occurred according to Allah's Will and Plan. All previous firm decisions, reactions and choices are all part of Allah's Qadr/Destiny. While our lifespan, journey and livelihood have been preordained and planned beforehand by Allah the Most Wise, Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala granted us freewill and the freedom to choose which destined action to take, with each option having its own outcomes.
Every deed we decide to do has a consequence, good or bad. Although it's natural to blame ourselves for selecting the incorrect response, a faulty decision shouldn't direct us to eternal distress and long-term agony.
An error committed out of ignorance, unawareness, haste, emotional instability, or forgetfulness is a valuable lesson we can learn from.
We can Inn-sha-Allah ensure that we try our best not to duplicate those errors in the future, not to trust those persons whom we falsely assumed were trustworthy, and be generously helpful by warning others to avoid doing the wrongs we did.
The occasional tendency to err, fall into a slippery slope, misunderstand, misinform and forget remind us we're human beings who must always rely on Allah the Almighty to succeed in both worlds. This is where having Tawakkal/trust in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, saying Du'a and praying two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaarah become necessary for us as Muslims.
When things go wrong, we can rectify the present through sincere Tawbah and seeking Allah's Forgiveness, as we patiently keep moving forward knowing that all affairs are under Allah's Full Control. Be strong enough in faith/Imaan to accept that when Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves us, He only grants what is beneficial and purifying for our souls.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He Wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
💌 Obsessively rewinding unforgettable memories of past mistakes can lead to remorse and depression. Nothing positive can be gained by saying statements like "If only I never said those words and uploaded that status update, we would've still been friends.", "If only I attended the annual family reunion, I could've shared an important message with my relatives and not be so distant from them.", and "If only I never told her that one secret, these awful rumors wouldn't have spread."
Scolding yourself harshly for something you were unable to identify correctly, for deciding on what you felt so sure of that time, or for making an innocent mistake doesn't help you in any way nor does it improve a situation.
There is no use in crying over spilled milk when what has happened already occurred according to Allah's Will and Plan. All previous firm decisions, reactions and choices are all part of Allah's Qadr/Destiny. While our lifespan, journey and livelihood have been preordained and planned beforehand by Allah the Most Wise, Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala granted us freewill and the freedom to choose which destined action to take, with each option having its own outcomes.
Every deed we decide to do has a consequence, good or bad. Although it's natural to blame ourselves for selecting the incorrect response, a faulty decision shouldn't direct us to eternal distress and long-term agony.
An error committed out of ignorance, unawareness, haste, emotional instability, or forgetfulness is a valuable lesson we can learn from.
We can Inn-sha-Allah ensure that we try our best not to duplicate those errors in the future, not to trust those persons whom we falsely assumed were trustworthy, and be generously helpful by warning others to avoid doing the wrongs we did.
The occasional tendency to err, fall into a slippery slope, misunderstand, misinform and forget remind us we're human beings who must always rely on Allah the Almighty to succeed in both worlds. This is where having Tawakkal/trust in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, saying Du'a and praying two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaarah become necessary for us as Muslims.
When things go wrong, we can rectify the present through sincere Tawbah and seeking Allah's Forgiveness, as we patiently keep moving forward knowing that all affairs are under Allah's Full Control. Be strong enough in faith/Imaan to accept that when Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves us, He only grants what is beneficial and purifying for our souls.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He Wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim