Note: Better To Keep Secrets Than Reveal Them To Regret

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 "If a person disclosed his secret with his tongue,
and somebody else spread that secret, then surely he is foolish.
If a person's chest was too tight from the distress of concealing his secret,
then the one who spread the secrets had a much tighter chest."
Note: You can't expect another individual to keep your secrets if you yourself found difficulty in keeping such personal information.
From the poetry of Imam Ash-Shaafi'ee
📖 Abdullah ibn 'Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever is silent has been saved."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2501
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Note: Three Things That Allah Hates Which We Must Avoid

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 There are three things that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala hates yet they are common among many communities:
Overspending unnecessarily or being reckless with one's wealth, asking too many questions which are more harmful than beneficial, and spreading gossip, busily discussing others' personal matters while forgetting one's own issues.
🔸 Examples of wasting money which we should avoid: YouTube vloggers uploading videos of themselves resting in a bathtub loaded with tons of ramen noodles or cereal, so-called 'food challenges' in which competitive eaters try to consume a gigantic platter of expensive dishes that can suffice an entire village, and using one's savings to regularly enjoy a lavish vacation around several European countries instead of performing Hajj at least once in their lifetime.
🔸 Examples of excessive questioning which we ought to abstain from: Asking too many questions about how a person obtained their education and still suspecting their background in spite of their clarifications. Questioning why a particular legislation or Islamic ruling is legislated, such as the obligation of the hijaab and the permissibility of polygyny - not to genuinely comprehend its virtues but to reach a conclusion that it's unnecessary according to your flawed understanding. And attempting to disturb religious scholars or lecturers with numerous questions not to eagerly learn more about Islam but to be a troublesome troll, checking how knowledgeable, persuasive and eloquent they are.
🔸 Examples of unproductive talks that are better off avoided: Discussing other people's marriages in depth and evaluating why this person decided to ask for divorce, complaining about how much you dislike working alongside a specific boss or colleague and your complaint doesn't improve your circumstances at all, and
chatting about how you're arguably correct concerning why you ship certain celebrities and what caused them to look compatible together. Conversations that don't strengthen your faith/Imaan or which cannot produce any positive value can be idealistically substituted with frequent Qur'an recitation, Du'as and Dhikr.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah does not like for you to waste wealth, nor ask many unnecessary questions, nor spread gossip."
Source: Musnad Al-Bazzār 8463
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What I have prohibited for you, avoid it. What I have commanded you, do it as much as you can. Verily, those before you were ruined only due to their excessive questioning and contradicting their prophets."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6858
Sahih Muslim 1337
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam passed by two graves and he said, "Both of them are being punished, but not for a major sin. As for this man, he did not prevent his urine from soiling him. And as for this man, he would spread gossip." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam then asked for a green leaf from a date-palm. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam split it into two pieces and planted one on each grave, and he said, "It is hoped that their punishment may be abated until those two leaves become dry."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5705, Sahih Muslim 292
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "shaytan will come to one of you and he will say, ‘Who created this and that?’ until he says to him, ‘Who created your Lord (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)?’ When it comes to this, let him seek refuge in Allah and stop such thoughts.
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3102, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
https://www.abukhadeejah.com/allah-hates-squander-wealth-waste-hadeeth-brief-explanation/

Note: True Wealth Is In Faith/Imaan And Contentment For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 "Indeed the intelligent person is the one whose intelligence is known through his actions,
not necessarily by his eloquence and statements.
And similarly the leader - he is the leader through his good example and character,
not necessarily by his clan and followers.
And in the same way, the wealthy person is the one who is enriched from within and contented with himself,
not necessarily by his kingdom and wealth."
From the poetry of Imam Ash-Shaafi'ee
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Wealth is not in having many possessions. Rather, true wealth is the richness of the soul."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6081
Sahih Muslim 1051
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “O Abu Dharr, do you say an abundance of possessions is wealth?” I said 'yes.' The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do you say a lack of possessions is poverty?” I said 'yes.' The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam repeated this three times, then he said, "Wealth is in the heart and poverty is in the heart. Whoever is wealthy in his heart will not be harmed no matter what happens in the world. Whoever is impoverished in his heart will not be satisfied no matter how much he has in the world. Verily, he will only be harmed by the greed of his own soul."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 1618
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The poor Muslims will enter Paradise before the rich by half of a day, the length of which is five hundred years."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2354
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: Don't Be From The Two-Faced Hypocrites

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Allah loves the truthful, so stay honest for His sake. 

From the traits of people who can be described as "fake"

Include: Hating you in secret, smiling to your face, 

Acting nice if you're there, gossiping when you're away,

Lying and making promises which they plan to break. 

~•~

Don't be two-faced. It's not appealing nor rewarding.

Rather than welcoming forced social interactions 

Then following fruitless talks with sinful backbiting, 

Be brief yet friendly, be well-mannered as a Muslim.

Although you clash with some souls, abstain from gossiping. 

~•~

Those who truly love Allah strive to support the truth, 

Ensure their words are factual, have fakery eschewed,

Apologize if they misinformed or misconstrued, 

Side with the sincere and trustworthy whose faith is true -

Telling lies and spreading rumors are faults they don't do. 

~•~

Strike a balance between love and hate for Allah's sake.

Despising some shouldn't lead to what Allah forbade 

From engaging in gossip to wanting to betray.

Simply disconnect from those who goals are not the same.

Return wrongs with patience. Let your good heart be portrayed.

~•~

Practice what you preach. Make sure your words match your actions.

Recall Allah sees all, so purify intentions,

And refrain from the following: Falsehood, deception,

And partaking in futile gossipy discussions. 

Truth and justice will prevail on the Day of Judgment.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, among the worst of people is one with two faces, he who comes with one face to these and another to those."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6757

Sahih Muslim 2526

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Anas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever speaks with a forked-tongue in the world, Allah will make two tongues of fire for him on the Day of Resurrection."

Source: Musnad Abī Ya’lá 2746

Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi (Authentic due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as truthful. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5743

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/minor-and-major-hypocrisy-and-the-hypocrites-by-al-barbahaaree-explanation-of-al-fawzaan/

Note: Some Reasons Why A Number Of Women Choose To Stay Single

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 The words "spinster" and "old maid" are used to describe an unmarried woman who has reached a stage that is beyond the usual age for marriage. Alhamdulillah I personally know at least five Muslim women who are in their forties or fifties and they're contented as they are - single but independent, and free from the additional responsibilities of being a wife.

Although she never had a husband before, the mother of Prophet Jesus, Maryam (May Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala be pleased with them both) is counted as one of the best women on earth and one of the believers promised to be granted entry to Jannah Paradise. So long as you're blessed with Allah's Love, you don't need a man to feel complete nor obtain the status of being "married" to be regarded as successful in this temporal life. 

It is possible for a Muslimah to be happy enjoying singlehood, believing she's satisfied with loving Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, while not being dependent on another human being.

🔸 Some of the likely reasons why a number of women choose to avoid matrimony include:

1] They're fed up receiving marriage proposals from men who don't seem to be good enough according to their standards. They'd rather wait for their flawless spouse in Jannah Paradise than deal with the negative consequences of marrying "the wrong guy".

2] They have full satisfaction with their current job. The income they get from their profession is more than enough to sustain themselves and their loved ones. They're the type of women who don't require assistance and support from any human, especially a man.

3] They could be "asexual" or not interested at all in anything that has to do with physical intimacy, romance and sexual reproduction. To them, there are other ways to achieve happiness which are not connected to marriage. 

4] They've seen too many "failed marriages" that they lost interest in becoming wives. They prefer staying single and free from worries to not being an "ideal wife".

5] They could be from the minority of females who are not sexually attracted to males. Falling in love with the opposite gender doesn't come to them easily. Instead of marrying unwillingly and showing love to the husband artificially, these women are satisfied rejecting and not receiving marriage proposals. 

🔸 Tips concerning this issue:

1] Never look down on a woman who hasn't received a marriage proposal yet. A woman's value is in her Taqwa, faith/Imaan and love for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not in the amount of marriage proposals she got or the quality of guys she was married to in the past. 

2] If you're currently single, don't feel pressured to get married soon just because a lot of your friends and relatives finally had their wedding. Continue preserving your modesty, as you keep praying to Allah the Most Loving to bless you with a pious husband who is worthy of your loyalty and affection. 

3] Married life isn't equivalent to joy and success. Once a woman gets married, she should expect various trials and tests, including how patient she can get with her husband and whether or not she can always remain loyal. 

Your worth as a Muslimah isn't attached to your marital status, but to how strong and genuine your connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is.

Single, divorced or widowed, what matters really is that you're from those souls whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves and guided. 

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the nations before me and one or two prophets would pass by with only a few followers and another would pass by with none. Then a large crowd of people passed in front of me and I asked: 'Are they my followers?' It was said: 'No, this is Moses (Prophet Musa 'alaihis salaam) and his followers.' Then it was said: 'Look at the horizon.' Behold, there was a multitude of people filling the horizon. It was said: 'This is your nation from which seventy thousand will enter Paradise without being taken to account.' Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam entered his house without telling them who the seventy thousand were, so the people started discussing the issue and they said, “It is we who have believed in Allah and followed His Messenger, so those people are either ourselves or our children who are born in the era of Islam, for we were born in the time of ignorance.” When the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam heard that, he came out and he said: "They are those who do not treat themselves with incantations, nor do they believe in bad or good omens, nor do they get themselves cauterized. Rather, they put their complete trust in their Lord (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)." ‘Ukkashah ibn Muhsin said, “O Messenger of Allah, am I one of them?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said 'yes.' Another man got up and he said, “Am I one of them?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Ukkashah has preceded you."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5378

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials (fitna/fitan) on the earth and the spread of corruption."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani