Monday, August 31, 2020

Note: Tips On How Extroverts And Introverts Can Understand Each Other

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 3 Ways introverts can better understand extroverts:

1) When an extrovert likes you, they tend to be chatty and enjoy asking you lots of questions so you can become closer friends. Their interviews are not necessarily meant to cause annoyance or inconvenience.

2) Don't be offended if some extroverts seem to ignore you at times. Because of their wide range of network and acquaintances, it's not easy for them to have lengthy conversations offline and online with every individual they know. It's normal to see an extrovert who talks faster than you do or seems like they're always rushing. They may want to get done with the dialogue to complete their assignment of conversing with each person in a gathering.

3) Not all extroverts intend to be attention seekers if they post regularly on their Facebook timelines or if they are outspoken in real life. Sharing some of their thoughts or ideas with the public, expressing themselves loudly and letting others know about how they feel are part of being an extroverted personality type. Since they like to socialize with various kinds of people, connecting with others, frequently updating their social media accounts and chatting do not make them less energized. 

3 Ways extroverts can better understand introverts:

1) Don't be offended if it takes time for some introverts to answer your messages. A lot of them prefer to think very carefully of what to say and analyze how to deliver it before they actually reply. Some have a habit of overthinking so much to the point that they seldom respond to your text because they already replied to it in their mind. Follow up with another friendly message if you insist on receiving their response, or talk to them one-on-one offline.

2) Many introverts like their privacy, cherish their alone time and prefer planned activities instead of getting surprised. So if you don't want to give them a heart attack, avoid calling them on the phone without prior notice or going to their house without an invite. 

3) An introvert's silence doesn't always indicate they dislike your company. They're probably waiting for you to speak so they can listen to you attentively, or they don't want to ask too many questions so they don't seem annoying, disrespectful or nosy. Overly socializing and talking unnecessarily, especially with a stranger or an acquaintance they've just met recently, can cause them to lose energy. Thus have compassion and give them the space they need.

Whether you're introverted, extroverted or an ambivert who can be flexible in different social settings, always make sure that you maintain good manners for Allah's sake with everyone, and whatever action you decide to take doesn't harm other Muslims for no reason.

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

Hadith: Virtues Of Trusting Only Allah And Not Being Dependent On People

📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105, Sahih Muslim 1053 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 ‘Iyad ibn Himar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The people of Paradise are three kinds: an authority who is fair, truthful, and guided; a man who has mercy and kindness in his heart towards his relatives and every Muslim; and one who refuses to beg (from people) although he has dependents." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2865 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah loves a servant who is righteous, independent, and obscure (hidden from publicity, not famous or popular among the people)."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2965 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim