Saturday, September 26, 2020

Note: When A Pious Wife Loves Her Husband For Allah's Sake

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If a woman truly loves her husband for Allah's sake and she firmly believes that being married to him is a blessing, she wouldn't give up on him easily no matter how many times she deals with marital problems, arguments or his frequent absence. Even if her marriage were to be a trial, she'd do whatever she could to salvage the bond that Allah the Most Wise destined. 

The similitude of a loyal wife who refuses to quit loving her other half in spite of numerous challenges is that of a person whose diamond ring is stuck at the bottom of a deep hole or pit. Instead of just leaving that jewelry underground, she persistently waits for the hole to be filled with water coming from the rainfall so the ring can rise above and float towards her. With an umbrella of hope and raincoat of positive mindset to keep her standing firm, she won't depart from her spot until the ring she deeply cherishes reaches her level, regardless of how fast or slow the droplets of rain fall, and not minding if she has to keep waiting in the dark or she's slightly uncomfortable by the sounds of loud thunderstorms. She could also try other alternatives and methods to save her diamond ring: Using a long pole, stick, branch of a tree, metal bar or rope to fetch it, or by digging the ground and making the pit big enough for her to go in so she can descend towards it and get it with her own hands. She has an option to purchase a new one anytime, like other women would probably do, but instead she chooses to keep that ring because that's how much she cherishes it.

A faithful wife whose husband is in jail wouldn't look for another man. She'd be patient enough to wait for his release, even if the duration of waiting takes so many years. A grateful and loving wife whose husband works in a different city or country wouldn't go around cheating on him and flirting with distractions behind his back. She'd remain fiercely loyal and value her married status, looking forward to seeing her husband return when Allah the Most Loving allows her soulmate to come back.

If a newly married Muslimah doesn't like her husband's temper or aloof personality, she doesn't instantly call it quits but she takes initiative to do what she can so her man's heart can soften until he falls so in love with her. And if he happens to be a guy who doesn't take his prayers seriously, because he was brought up in a family that is supposedly "modern" or uneducated yet of many Islamic teachings, she excitedly sees this as a perfect opportunity to rescue her lover for Allah's sake and together they learn about Islam until they both make it to Jannah Paradise, grateful they never gave up on one another.

While divorce is lawful and allowed in Islam for couples who aren't compatible, we can all agree that a Muslim man being separated from his wife is something which entertains shaytan who feels satisfied that he did a job well done for trying to cause trouble between man and woman, and for destroying a beautiful union that our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decreed.

A massive amount of trust in Allah the Most Merciful, while maintaining loads of rewarding patience, contentment, gratitude, appreciation, understanding, and passionate refusal to give up this love journey to Jannatul Ferdaus are essential to guarantee a long-standing marriage.

Impatience, unreasonably high expectations, greed, pride, selfishness, attachment to dunya, and unwillingness to cooperate with each other are usually the factors that lead to divorce. Marriage isn't a fairytale where the wife and husband enjoy 100% bliss 24/7. It's supposed to be a journey full of ups and downs which a Muslim husband and wife/wives take towards Jannah Paradise. With Sabr and Shukr, they mutually assist one another in making sure they pass Allah's tests, striving to win against shaytan who doesn't want their blessed joy to stay alive.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts the month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Jannah Paradise from any gate she wishes.”

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Hadith: On Safeguarding Your Heart And Keeping Secrets

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “I instruct you to fear Allah in your private and public affairs. If you do a bad deed, then do a good deed. Do not ask anyone for anything, even if you drop your whip. Do not violate what is entrusted, and do not take a position as judge between two people.”

Source: Musnad Ahmed 21063
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 An-Nawwas ibn Sam’an RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Righteousness is good character and sin is what waivers in your heart and you hate for people to find out about it."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2553
Grade: Sahih
📖 Mu’adh ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Verily, you will continue to be safe as long as you remain silent. If you speak, it will be recorded for you or against you.”
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16591
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “May Allah have mercy on a person who spoke rightly and was rewarded, or who was silent and remained safe.”
Source: Shu’b Al-Imān 4579
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the best people?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One with a heart swept clean and truthful in speech.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know truthful in speech. What is a heart swept clean?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One that is mindful of Allah and pure, in which there is no sin, nor aggression, nor envy.” We said, “Who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One who hates worldliness and loves the Hereafter.” They said, “And who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “A believer with good character.”

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 4457

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani