Thursday, October 8, 2020

Tips: Marital Things You Can Relate To If You're An INTJ Wife

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Seven things you can relate to if you're a Muslim wife with an INTJ personality type:
1🔹 You're generally serious, formal, emotionally distant, cautious and quiet around others, yet when you're with your husband you can be talkative, lenient, humorous, easygoing and more gentle.
2🔹 You can't easily get offended when your husband doesn't answer your messages in a timely manner. What's important is that he read your messages while you're aware of his busyness and other factors that led to his inability to respond on time e.g. maybe he couldn't reply earlier because he was driving, and when he arrived at his destination, he had tons of tasks to do until he eventually forgot to answer you, being the human being that he is who's prone to forgetting and getting tired at times. Otherwise, one of his other wives was likely busy trying to pester him to ignore you, if you're in a polygynous marriage, and her insecure attitude simply makes you laugh with pity and amusement from inside.
3🔹 While you undoubtedly miss your husband when he isn't around, not being able to see each other as much as you'd like doesn't decrease your loyalty, respect and affection for him. You gladly accept this challenge in your love life and hope that Allah the Most Merciful rewards you for your steadfast patience and contentment with Allah's Qadr/Decree, believing firmly that Jannah Paradise is where you and your husband can
Inn-sha-Allah enjoy each other's company eternally.
4🔹 Other couple's marriage stories and extravagant weddings can't trigger feelings of jealousy in you. As a Muslim Alhamdulillah you're joyful when another Muslim wife expresses her love for her spouse, just as you're not responsible for the envious sentiments some onlookers deal with whenever loving your soulmate is visibly evident.
5🔹 With the gift of intuition that Allah the Most Wise granted you, you instinctively understand how your husband feels most of the time. You've been able to guess correctly what he was about to tell you several times, visualize what he'd decide and got your guesses on point, or you can sense when he's ready to talk and when discussing issues with you isn't the right time.
6🔹 Whenever you feel like arguing, interrogating or scolding your husband for something he did or didn't do, your usual reaction is to take a step back and carefully evaluate the possible outcomes of the probable actions you might take. You imagine yourself being in a social experiment show or some kind of prank where the accursed shaytan and his demonic allies are eagerly working against you and your other half. Understanding what the conniving shaytan and his delusional puppets are up to, you refuse to act in a way that would entertain them, so instead of quarreling with your husband out of egoistic pride, you choose to patiently forgive him for Allah's sake, wait for your man to cool off, and try to solve the marital problems together intelligently.
7🔹 Once you've adamantly agreed to keep loving the man whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose for you as your soulmate, you become a staunch, fiercely loyal and faithful lover who won't give up on your partner until you both make it to
Jannatul Ferdaus Inn-sha-Allah. Since you can vividly envision all of the negative possibilities of divorcing, you would rather stay in love with your other half for Allah's sake and continue inspiring one another to be the best Muslims you can be, rather than cowardly quitting this journey because fluctuating emotions mattered more than patience, gratitude, contentment, loyalty and searching for solutions to a misunderstanding that was just temporary.
As a Muslim wife with a thinking personality type, you tackle marital problems using logic, reason and efficiency, while continuously trusting Allah the Almighty to make your marriage life as a source of blessings and an extra ticket to Jannah's entry.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Beware of the intuition of the believer. Verily, he sees with the Light of Allah.” Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam recited the verse, “Verily, in that are signs for those of discernment.” (The Noble Qur'an 15:75)

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3127

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Haythami

Ibn al-Qayyim said, “It is a light that Allah bestows in the heart of His servant, by which he distinguishes between truth and falsehood, advantage and disadvantage, the honest and the liar.”

Source: Madārij al-Sālikīn 2/453

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