Wednesday, October 14, 2020

Poem: Always Love Your Husband Even If You Don't See Him Always

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 To each wife whose husband works in a different place,

Who is employed or studying many miles away,

And who can't see their other half every night and day:

Don't get tired of loving your soulmate for Allah's sake.

~•~

I understand how sometimes we wish things were perfect,

How fine it would be if lovers didn't separate, 

And if missing one's partner didn't lead to heartaches.

But admit it, this is life, we're bound to be tested.

~•~

In marriage, expect your patience being examined 

When you must deal with the grief of your husband's absence, 

When you can't be near him often unlike your friends' men,

And when you make decisions that require rethinking.

~•~

At times you imagine how amazing it would be 

If you and your husband lived together constantly -

No need for work, no LDR, no polygyny -

But to pass Allah's tests is dunya's reality.

~•~

No worries. Jannah is where you and your spouse can love 

Eternally without trials nor a busy job.

Thank Allah that your love journey trains you to be tough.

Though you can't always be with your zawj, never give up.

~•~

When dreams of your husband make you miss him even more,

And when you need your husband's comforting hugs or words, 

Mention his name in your Du'as to prove he's adored,

Pray you'll both be in Jannah, and know this life is short.

~•~

So no matter how long you wait for your man's return 

Or how far he is, the sky above is the same one, 

And the strength of true love shouldn't drop due to distance,

Since loving him for Allah is worth all the waiting.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Note: Your Choice Of Friends Can Say A Lot About You

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 In Surah Al-Furqaan verse 28 Allah the Almighty mentions how some people on the Day of Judgment will regret being friends with the wrong kind of individuals, whose companionship brought no positive value and caused hell/jahannam to be their ultimate destination.
The similitude of a group of pals anxiously blaming each other on the Day of Resurrection is that of a notorious squad of troublemaking bullies who end up in the principal's office. All of them in the gang that is known for bullying the other students get suspended regardless of how active each participant was.
The type of friends you willingly choose to spend time with can significantly impact your overall attitude, beliefs and lifestyle. So never feel guilty about not having many close friends because you're strictly selective regarding who you trust and befriend for Allah's sake.
~ From the qualities of bad companions or toxic people whom we should avoid yet still treat with basic good manners:
1] They enjoy gossiping, spreading rumors, backbiting, making fun of people behind their backs, and fault-finding while disregarding the fact that they're also imperfect.
2] They stubbornly insist on doing acts of bid'ah, refuse to refrain from obvious haraam/forbidden actions, and encourage you to do the same e.g. celebrating birthdays, flirting with non-mahrams, and sketching drawings of living beings.
3] They have zero interest in learning about Islam, they've declined your invitations to join you in attending Islamic lectures or seminars multiple times, and they seem to be overly attached to this worldly life.
4] They're untrustworthy because they've knowingly lied to you more than once, broken a promise without a genuine apology, or you can sense they're secretly jealous of you. Envious people can never be trusted, as they hate seeing you happy or grateful for the blessings that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala granted you.
5] They have unreasonably high expectations of you and expect you to constantly solve their problems, like you were unknowingly assigned to be their freelance guidance counselor or babysitter in training. Good friends understand your need for space and privacy at times, just as they don't get hurt if you can't always be there for them, since we know that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is the Only One Whom we can truly depend on at all times.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Mu’adh ibn Anas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The best of faith is to love for the sake of Allah, to hate for the sake of Allah, and to keep your tongue busy in the remembrance of Allah.” Mu’adh said, “And what else, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “And that you love for the people what you love for yourself, and you hate for them what you hate for yourself, and you speak goodness or remain silent.”

Source: Musnad Ahmed 21627

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut