💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 To fathers and brothers who care for their womenfolk,
Who threaten their daughters or sisters that if they don't
Marry the guy they chose, they'll be kicked out and disowned,
Against their will like they're commodities to be sold.
~•~
Why are you rushing in trying to get them disposed?
The mahr/dowry is for them, not for you to own.
Their willingness to marry only they can control.
No blessings can be gained in a marriage that is forced.
~•~
Have you forgotten what the Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) told?
That the best of men are those kind to their womenfolk,
Their moms, sisters, daughters, nieces, females young and old.
Their right to decide if they should marry don't withhold.
~•~
To those who threaten with weapons feeling tough and bold,
What caused you to act in a way that's unkind and cold?
They're your sisters and daughters whose ties you must uphold.
Real men won't want their women to be hurt nor injured.
~•~
If you think you have a friend or colleague who is worth
Being your brother-in-law, then advise, don't enforce.
Encourage your sister or daughter and let her know
Of his merits, joy of marriage, and Sabr's rewards.
~•~
Remind her that it's after nikaah she'll learn to love,
She'll gradually get used to loving her other half,
Specially if righteous kids Allah wills them to have.
Inspire her to consider the man. Don't break her heart.
~•~
And if your efforts to motivate her didn't work,
As she's not ready or she hates how he looks or works,
Respect her choice. Console the guy. You're done with your part
Of striving, for Allah, to care for your womenfolk.
~•~
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Yes.” I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence is her consent."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of you are the best to their women."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1978
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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