💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Five scenarios to clarify what boycotting means,
What prideful boycotting looks like while it's not esteemed,
As it entails arrogance that disrupts harmony,
Harms Muslim communities and divides families,
As though pleasing Allah matters less than how one feels:
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First scene - An 'adult' who moves out of her fam's abode,
After some misunderstandings which haven't been solved.
Many months pass by, and from her there's no text, no calls,
And her own parents don't receive a salaam at all.
When will she reconnect? When Allah retrieves her soul?
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Second - When a Muslim who claims to appreciate
Good manners and forgiving others for Allah's sake
Decides to block your profile online so there's no way
To check on them, send salaams, or explain your mistakes,
And if you cross paths offline, they awkwardly escape.
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Third - When you're asked to attend an ex-friend's funeral,
And in traveling to their place there's no obstacle,
Despite not being busy, you grant them refusal,
No Du'a for the dead because pride makes you recall
Your frequent quarrels or how your friendship had to fall.
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Fourth - When you're in a conference, social gathering,
Or wedding, and someone you once liked greets you smiling,
And instead of answering, you stare at them scowling,
And so long as they're nearby, you choose to stay silent,
Unaware acting sulky shows you're unconfident.
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Fifth - When the person you're avoiding asks for advice,
Financial support, or assistance of any kind,
While you have the means or know how to kindly reply,
You leave their messages on seen mode, or say goodbye
By blocking them, and you refuse to apologize.
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It's normal to argue with loved ones, once in a while,
And feeling hurt makes it hard to look them in the eyes.
After three days though, one must be brave enough to rise
And say salaam to please Allah, and ditch lousy pride.
If you can't reconcile, at least forgive from inside.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is not lawful for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three days. Whoever boycotts for more than three days and dies (upon that state of arrogantly boycotting), he will enter Hellfire."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4914
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
📖 Abu Ayyub RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is not lawful for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three nights, such that they meet each other and turn away from one another. The better of the two is the one who initiates the (salaam) greeting of peace."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5727
Sahih Muslim 2560
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not hate each other, do not envy each other, do not turn away from each other, but rather be servants of Allah as brothers. It is not lawful for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three days."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5718
Sahih Muslim 2559
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
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