💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Some signs that a family member or friend could be
A narcissist with big ego and self-interest,
Who may act as if they like you, just a tiny bit,
If staying connected with you profits their success,
While your choice to tolerate them can spoil your wellness:
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When they notice you struggling with some kind of test,
They don't ask if you need help nor attempt to assist.
Anytime they see you losing, they laugh about it,
And when their jokes sting, they'd say, "Don't be too sensitive."
Yet when you treat them likewise, they get so aggressive.
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When chatting, their lives and selves are their favored topics.
Once you mention yourself, they quickly become quiet,
Roll their eyes, or purposely ignore your last message.
They expect you to be perfect, while they won't accept
Any no from you, delayed replies, and excuses.
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Since they're so focused on their looks and public image,
They show disrespect if your skin has pimples or zits,
Refuse to spend time with you unless you're nicely fit,
Insist that you lose weight or go on a strict diet,
And respect you less if you don't appear attractive.
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Cancel plans with them? They'll get really disappointed,
And even if you're sick, they can't readily forgive.
Keywords or adjectives which describe real narcissists:
Selfish, self-obsessed, overly materialistic,
Greedy, pretentious, vain, and oftentimes merciless.
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If they're mad at you, they'll ensure you're uninvited
To a meeting or gathering which they've conducted,
Give nice things to mutual friends yet leave you excluded,
And delay answering your online text on purpose,
Expecting you to chase them and pitifully beg.
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Stay patient if Allah tests you with some narcissists,
Specially if they are close or distant relatives.
Include them in your prayers, pray that Allah gets rid
Of the arrogance/kibr they may be dealing with,
And don't grant them complete trust or intimate secrets.
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📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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