💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Know what to avoid, as your husband's respectful wife,
So you don't end up being one of those battered wives
Or newlyweds who feel "abused" or unsatisfied
When by the husband's bad temper they get terrified.
Prevent spousal abuse through Taqwa and deeds upright.
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Refrain from interrogating him when he arrives,
Specially when his gestures and face signal he's tired.
Instead of whining, "why are you late?", "Again you lie!",
And "next time don't disappoint, or I'll take your kids/child.",
Gently welcome him and thank Allah he's still alive.
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Strive to stay away from actions which your spouse dislikes,
Including pestering him when he is clearly tired,
Poking or shoving him when he's a more serious type,
Playing childish pranks, playfully smacking his behind,
And messing around while he has tasks to finalize.
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With a sensitive guy or one who struggles with pride,
Be kind and ensure the words he hears from you are nice.
Sometimes the complaints of most women can amplify
Insecure men's urge to react furiously or strike.
At times your silence is wiser than proving you're right.
~•~
Your husband, a trust and gift from Allah the Most Wise,
Should be handled with care and patience, each day and night.
He's not a stuffed toy to yell at whenever you like
Nor a fictional genie that can grant all desires.
He's your friend and soulmate - invite him to Paradise.
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Don't diss his parents, siblings and loved ones from his side,
Even if you intend to rectify or advise.
Politely correct mistakes which he can't recognize
In a one-on-one manner and considerate style,
Whilst praying for his progress every once in a while.
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Don't be defeated by greed and this temporal life.
Be pleased with what your dear zawj can afford and provide,
Conscious of the fact that the pleasures in Paradise
Are more lasting and worthwhile than dunya's brief delights.
To thrive in both worlds, be your husband's respectful wife.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".
[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]
Riyad As-Salihin 286
In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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