Friday, August 20, 2021

Tips: Three Types Of Grudges And How To Deal With People's Enmity

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🔹 Three signs that a person hates and avoids you because of jealousy: 
1] They're cowardly passive-aggressive. On more than one occasion they've given some mutual acquaintances gifts, freebies, or cheerful greetings while purposely excluding you. They've also shared numerous posts or typed scornful status updates online which are subtly aimed to offend you. 
2] Nearly every time you interact with them, you notice they feel the need to one-up you or give out unsolicited info to claim superiority. 
3] They almost never ask about your personal life and check how you're doing, because they get annoyed whenever they're informed about your progress, achievements, and blessings which are granted by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 
🔹 Three signs that somebody dislikes you due to hurt feelings or unresolved misunderstanding: 
1] They can't maintain proper eye contact with you while conversing or when you're in the same room. Every time they see you, they're reminded of the unpleasant things you've done or said to them. 
2] They stopped inviting you to accompany them for shopping, outings, or hanging out at their favorite Islamic bookstore/library, if they went out of their way to invite you often previously. It's their absolute right to emotionally detach from those whom they discovered are dishonest, inconsistent, and untrustworthy. 
3] They lost interest in wanting to be a close friend. They're no longer talkative, open, and transparent around you, as if they went back to being mere strangers again - only this time they withhold tons of secrets from you and keep their conversations brief or businesslike.
🔹 Three signs that a person's grudge comes from intimidation, feeling insecure around you, or guessing they're not good enough to reach your level of piety, confidence or dedication: 
1] When trying to talk to them, you can sense that they're nervous, frightened, or overall distracted, as if they can't wait to run away. Your positive vibes may clash with their negative energy. 
2] They have a bad habit of regularly leaving your text messages on seen mode or calls ignored because they're too scared to respond, or their lack of self-confidence makes them assume that someone who is as awesome as you shouldn't be socializing with somebody insecure like them. 
3] They do whatever they can to spoil your good image, through immature bullying and gossiping, since they view you as a threat or obstacle to their goals. 
🔹 What you, as a confident Muslim, can do when you know that certain individuals cannot stand you: 
1] Thank Allah the Almighty that Alhamdulillah you're not an envious critic who keeps himself/herself busy hatefully stalking others and counting people's flaws to be distracted from their gigantic load of insecurities. 
2] Focus on pleasing Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who knows how to deal with His servants justly at the most ideal timing. 
3] Appreciate the few genuine souls whom you truly love for Allah's sake, particularly your spouse. Never let naysayers and bashers cause you to neglect those who share your values. 
4] Attain relief knowing that the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam also had enemies from among the hypocrites and unbelievers. Being loved by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala doesn't necessitate that you'll be approved by everybody on earth. 
5] Allow your enemies and haters to inspire you to have more Sabr/patience, better character, and gratitude that you're not the sad toxic person or self-loathing narcissist.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109 
Sahih Muslim 2638 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-solitude-with-allah-is-better-than.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-types-of-toxic-friends-we-must.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-checklist-to-find-out-if-someone.html 
🗒️ Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'a.