Wednesday, September 1, 2021

Note: Patiently Understand And Empathize With Your Husband Before Instantly Misjudging Him

πŸ’ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
πŸ’Œ Imagine three wives who are planning to ask for divorce carelessly without bothering to investigate the actual reasons behind the misunderstandings. The first wife is fed up with her husband's inability to answer her calls and messages for three months, unaware that he got into a car accident while on the way home and his corpse laying somewhere in the forest still hasn't been found by the locals. 
The second wife has been anxiously sending multiple emails to her busy husband working in a different city. She furiously complains to him about how she's tired of the way he has been unjustly ignoring her for days, not realizing that a female colleague at his workplace keeps trying to grab his attention and deleting his wife's messages, so she can selfishly interfere with their blessed marriage. 
The third wife plans to visit her mother in-law to declare that she must break up with her son who also works abroad, as he isn't doing a satisfactory job at financially supporting her and their kids. She is oblivious to the fact that her insecure co-wife nosily managed to get in between her and their husband regarding financial matters. So the money which their husband regularly sends via GCash or Western Union is actually being transmitted to the other wife's account. 
It's easy to quickly assume that your husband is guilty of neglecting you or disrespecting your rights, when in reality he's struggling with serious problems all the while. Oftentimes your husband's questionable conduct, misbehavior, or illogical decisions result from the negative impact of the evil eye ('ayn) perhaps during your wedding and he forgot to say some Adhkaar that time, or some jealous outsiders are desperately doing whatever they can to disrupt your love journey through corruption, unjust acts, or sorcery, black magic, and witchcraft. 
Whenever your husband does something wrong, lovingly make effort to analyze his actions, recall the memorable times you've enjoyed together, include him more often in your supplications, and stay grateful to Allah the Almighty for inspiring you to become a patient, loyal, and empathetic pious wife who isn't quick to invent unfair assumptions about other Muslims, particularly the man whom Allah the Most Wise chose as your soulmate or travel partner to Jannah Paradise. 
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πŸ“– Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
πŸ“– Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
πŸ“– Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
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