💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 If you've gone through a friendship breakup in your life or there are several individuals whom you're no longer on good terms with, you may have stumbled upon an ex-friend's comments, status updates, or noticed content which reminded you of them, while browsing around some social networking websites. Maybe you found yourself wondering why Allah the Almighty destined that you'd encounter such people who'd reject your sincere apology or whom you wouldn't want back in to your circle. You probably don't wish to reconcile with them due to the awful lies they've told against you, after you discovered their true colors and toxic personality, or you lost interest in strengthening your connection once you got tired of being the only one reaching out.
It's a different story if that ex-friend is the one who quit on you, unfriended you, or added you to their list of blocked users, and adamantly declined your request to reconnect.
📝 While being at the receiving end of a broken friendship can seem unfair or confusing, it becomes a blessing in disguise when you learn some worthwhile lessons:
1] We can't force anybody on earth to stay friends with us, since all human beings have freewill to make their own decisions according to what they perceive is right. A feral cat which you find in the park or streets may not approach you, despite desperate efforts to grab its attention, if it can't see that you clearly have something valuable to offer or they speculate you're a serious threat to their overall well-being.
2] Oftentimes we may desire to keep or obtain something, but Allah the Most Wise decrees that we're unable to achieve what we want, because Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows about all of the disadvantages and possible dangers of keeping or attaining what we think is good for us. A toddler may snatch a packet of cigarettes from a store assuming that it's something they can enjoy, when in actuality the cigars bring more demerits than benefit.
3] From every quarrel, falling-out, and separation we've had with those whom we thought could be potential friends, we are reminded to trust and depend only on Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, instead of clinging to any of Allah's servants who are full of defects, shortcomings, and imperfections like ourselves. Our mistakes, along with the faults of ex-friends, further teach us what we should avoid in the future, so
Inn-sha-Allah we don't repeat them with other humans whom Allah the Most Kind planned we'd meet.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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