💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 If you're currently single, you've probably found yourself rolling your eyes, while scrolling through your Facebook news feed, whenever certain users would openly gush over their spouses and announce how blessed they are to be married for the nth time. At least once you may have debated with yourself, wondering if you should or shouldn't unfriend a particular user because you've gotten tired of their annoyingly repetitive posts about their love life. Constant exposure to cringeworthy content could frighteningly worsen your moods.
Before confirming that you're allergic to people who brag about their marriages, make effort to figure out the probable sources of their eccentric behavior or seemingly insecure acts.
Your relative, friend, or acquaintance who seems to enjoy boasting about her married status may not have any intention to make you feel jealous or insecure, but that's probably one of her coping mechanisms when dealing with certain challenges, including:
1] Resisting unwanted or inappropriate feelings of attraction, so for Allah's sake she remains loyal to her husband: It could be that since she has an unexplainable crush on you or on somebody else, by emphasizing her love for her destined other half or soulmate, she believes she can effectively ignore the attractiveness of people whose relatable qualities act as distractions.
2] Dismissing, avoiding, or brushing off desperate love-seekers many of whom don't get the hint that she's contentedly married: By publicly declaring that she's grateful to be her husband's wife on a regular basis, she aims to terminate the interest of bored users who fill up her inbox with unnecessary greetings and flirtatious messages.
3] Trying to survive and thrive in a competitive atmosphere as a co-wife: Occasionally stating how happy she is with her husband could be an indirect message to his other wife/wives that they're all in this together and she has no plans whatsoever to leave him.
Truly confident individuals who don't have issues with inferiority complex are able to listen to a Muslim's inspirational stories and joyful announcements without going, "not again. Brace yourself for another episode of cringey romance." or "nobody cares.". With empathy, they'd try to imagine being in that person's place and conclude they probably would've behaved almost similarly if they were in the same position.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719
Sahih Muslim 2563
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Al-Bayhaqi reported: Hamdun Al-Qassar, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If one of your brothers commits an error, seek seventy excuses for him. If your hearts do not accept it, know that the fault is with yourselves.”
Source: Shu'ab Al-Imān 10436
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