💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Three signs of females with a very weak personality, despite their sad attempts to act "savage", "tough" or "suplada":
1🔹 Instead of trying to focus on pleasing Allah the Almighty steadfastly, they care more about how people perceive them, so they desperately seek to fit in with modern society.
e.g. a woman who used to wear the niqab for several years decides to stop wearing it, along with the hijaab and abaya, because none of her female relatives and friends were convinced to join her in dressing modestly. She dreads the idea of being the "black sheep" or "odd one out".
2🔹 They're not strong enough to control their speech and they have a toxic tendency to gossip, unduly criticize, tell pathetic lies, whine, and insecurely make fun of people.
e.g. a social media user who frequently posts cowardly passive-aggressive, overdramatic, and gossipy status updates to indirectly insult or complain about individuals whom she can't stand.
3🔹 They're easily prone to jealousy and inferiority complex.
e.g. frenemies or fake "friends" who are unsupportive, uncooperative, and occasionally treat you with disrespect "as a joke" may be jealously threatened by you. Their undeniable envy comes from their weak personality.
☑️ What to do when you've discovered that a certain relative, acquaintance, neighbor, colleague, classmate, teacher, employee, so-called friend, or co-wife is clearly insecure:
• Never trust them with your secrets, dreams, and most sensitive information. A lot of people with weak personalities are generally unreliable and dishonest.
• Avoid clinging to them. So if ever they abandon you, unfriend you, or signal they're no longer interested in being close, you remain unbothered by their choice to walk away.
• Still maintain polite manners with them, without initiating unnecessary dialogues. It's not your duty to listen to them blabber about themselves aimlessly or chat with them unwillingly.
If you sense that there are many benefits of staying connected to so-and-so, patiently advise them concerning what they can do to become better Muslims for Allah's sake, teach them about what it means to be confident, and be patient with their imperfections.
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📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the best people?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One with a heart swept clean and truthful in speech." We said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know truthful in speech. What is a heart swept clean?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One that is mindful of Allah and pure, in which there is no sin, nor aggression, nor envy." We said, “Who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One who hates worldliness and loves the Hereafter." They said, “And who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A believer with good character."
Source: Shu'ab Al-Imān 4457
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills.” Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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