💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Some weeks ago while browsing around social media, before deciding to delete the Instagram account, I stumbled upon the Instagram feed of one of my Pakistani former classmates from Middle East International School back in Riyadh city. On her profile she loudly stated that she was a "mommy of twins" while another acquaintance who is a few years older than me emphasized on her main page that she's a mom of eight kids. Meanwhile, one of the parents here (MashaAllah) is blessed with ten kids at the moment, my husband's parents are blessed with twelve children all in all including himself, and the parents of two of our former teachers are blessed with fourteen kids, and they haven't mentioned anything about the number of children that Allah the Almighty bestowed upon them. One of my cousins got married in her early twenties and after being blessed by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with two daughters she's currently pregnant with twins. She and her husband are around 25 or 26 years old. MashaAllah.
As I encounter different types of parents and notice various family sizes, I recall that somewhere around the world are still a large number of individuals who are married yet they don't plan on having kids or they're infertile. Another group of people, despite being a minority, seem to be wholeheartedly contented with not entering marriage life, either because they're avoiding the huge responsibility in being a dutiful spouse or they would much rather enjoy flawless romance in Jannah Paradise.
Whether you are childless, incapable of giving birth, or you're a loving parent of just one child, your worth as a Muslim isn't measured by how many children you bring up or adopt nor by how stable your marriage is.
A person having lots of kids isn't always an indicator that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves them. There may have been cases where some parents were murdered by their own children, their kids turned into belligerent criminals, or they were sent away to old age homes or elderly care centers by the so-called adults whom they looked after since they were babies.
Your Taqwa (fear of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala along with steadfast trust in Him) and your firm faith/Imaan are what can determine your soul's actual worth. The stronger your connection is with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, the more noteworthy and special you are to Him, regardless of whether you have kids or not.
One of the most renowned scholars and writers in Islamic history, Ibn Taymiyyah (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) never actually married nor had kids of his own, yet hundreds of righteous souls worldwide regularly include him in their Du'as or at least benefit from his writings and beneficial knowledge which he generously left behind for Allah's sake.
Allah the Most Merciful knows best.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2588
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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