💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Why is it that even if you have thirteen or more headscarves / hijabs and abayas / cloaks / outfits etc. you prefer to wear only three or so out of them more regularly than the others? Why is it that even if you have hundreds of "friends" on Facebook, there's a certain group of users whose timelines you enthusiastically check more often than the other individuals' pages?
Five possible reasons why we gravitate to some souls a lot more than those whom we regard as mere acquaintances:
1] They're more readily accessible, reachable, available, responsive, and reliable.
2] We've had more enjoyable and memorable moments with them than with the others.
3] We feel more comfortable, secure, and confident when we're around them than when we are anywhere near the others.
4] They've proven to be helpful, understanding, and cooperative in more instances than the other acquaintances who can assist only in specific events, seasons, or circumstances.
5] They're our type - they have relatable characteristics and more qualities which we search for in an ideal friend than the complete strangers whose dissimilarities bring about conflict and apathy.
The more somebody reciprocates our efforts to connect, the more they become likable to us. The more distant, disinterested, aloof, unresponsive and negative a person acts, the more we gradually distance ourselves from them until they no longer have any significant role in our lives.
While it's not obligatory to befriend each and every soul whom Allah the Most Wise destines us to meet, we should as Muslims strive to practice basic courtesy with them for Allah's sake, avoiding purposely telling lies, betraying, and gossiping also to preserve our good deeds.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
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