💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Question: As an introvert (INTJ personality type), what advice can you offer to switch feelings of FOMO (fear of missing out) to JOMO (joy of missing out)? What should extroverts do to avoid feeling regretful or sad they declined an invitation to a social gathering?
📝 Answer: 1] If you've prayed two Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara before finalizing your decision to not attend an event, you shouldn't feel remorse or guilt for choosing the option that you believe is most rewarding for your overall well-being. Any choice you make sincerely for Allah's sake is followed by tranquil contentment with its outcomes which Allah the Most Wise has already destined.
2] Remind yourself of all the reasons why you hesitated to attend the social gathering. The very fact that you felt uncertain about attending shows maybe your presence there could've caused more trouble than merit.
3] If you quickly noticed that some of the attendees uploaded several photos on their social media accounts or group chats, swiftly ignore them, look away, and stubbornly skip reading complimentary comments regarding them. You chose not to attend, so likewise choose not to absorb any content or info connected to the social gathering.
4] While a number of your loved ones, classmates or colleagues are attending the event which you declined, instead of watching Facebook live videos about it do something else that is more productive, continue working on the tasks you need to complete, or chat with a close friend or your husband if he isn't busy.
5] Don't feel guilty about not being able to show up at each congregation you're invited to or excluded from. As a human being with freewill, you have every right to select which gatherings to attend, who from Allah's servants to affiliate with willingly, and when to pause an assignment to be present for an appointment that won't act as a fitna to your faith/Imaan and piety.
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📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah loves a servant who is righteous, independent, and obscure (unknown, unpopular, not famous)."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2965
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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