💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Question: As an INTJ personality type, when do you regard somebody as "toxic" or not worthy of befriending? And how do you avoid toxic people?
📝 Answer: I consider some individuals toxic when...
1] More than three times they've proven to be unreliable, unhelpful, uncooperative, untruthful, and unclear with their statements or promises.
2] I caught them at least twice cowardly criticizing certain people behind their backs while gossiping seems to be an obnoxious activity they enjoy.
3] Spending time on solitary tasks (like reading, researching, and listening to some Islamic lectures), while trusting Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, is more enjoyable than trying to maintain shallow convos with them, specifically if there's a language barrier and they tend to misunderstand me mostly.
📨 Avoiding toxic people for Allah's sake involves:
1) Minimizing unnecessary interactions with them online and offline. Never stalking their social media accounts nor going out of my way to occasionally check how they're doing.
2) Not giving them the reaction they desire whenever they'd misbehave or act deplorably. Ignoring their ignorant acts as much as possible, almost in the same way that mature lions wouldn't bother chasing bored flies for buzzing noisily.
3) Having no interest in visiting their house or office even if it is only a few steps away. If there's a need to interact with them, I'd speak very briefly, in a serious no-nonsense manner. You know that an INTJ doesn't perceive you as a potential friend if they can't laugh at your jokes or they're uninterested in joking around with you.
If a person's vibes make you uncomfortable, as if you worry that anytime they could do or say something (such as backbiting) which would displease Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, it's better to keep your distance from them for Allah's sake as much as you can.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
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