📜 Question: Why is it that you and your husband aren't connected on social media?
📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah, while my husband and I occasionally chat online, especially since he is employed in a different city, we aren't "Facebook friends" because I prefer it that way. From the benefits of not stalking his Facebook timeline are:
1] Not making myself feel upset or insecure every time I notice a comment on any of his status updates coming from some of his female colleagues, female acquaintances (particularly from his high school and college days as he was one of the supposedly popular students back then) and female patients. I'd hate to be that kind of unconfident wife who regularly asks her husband questions like "who's this message from? How long have you known her? Are you 'cheating' on me?" not only because I'm perfectly okay with him being married to up to four wives but I feel that acting that way would signify I can't trust him. It's not easy to reciprocate the love of somebody who suspects your every move.
2] I married my husband for Allah's sake so we can both make it successfully, with Allah's Will, as friends, soulmates and teammates to Jannah Paradise. I wasn't put on earth to scrutinize every one of his acts and statements (online and offline, 24/7, rain or shine), ensuring that he never does anything which confirms he's actually human. I believe that Allah the Most Wise is the One Who knows precisely how to deal justly with all of His servants in this world and on Judgment Day.
3] Just as I want my dear husband to believe that my loyalty is authentic, I want him to feel, sense and acknowledge the fact that I trust him for Allah's sake, while being aware of how he already knows that all humans will be questioned about what they intentionally did and said on the Day of Judgment. While you can't compel a loved one to instantly change some defects or negative aspects of themselves, you can choose to focus on appreciating their commendable qualities and lovingly set a good example so they gradually become inspired by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala through you to improve as a striving Muslim.
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📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said:
"The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, “That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).”
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125
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