💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Advice to the bereft and those still trying to deal
With missing somebody whom they talked to frequently,
With the demise of a loved one, close friend or colleague,
And with grief that comes with denying reality
As recalling them feels as if they were just a dream:
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Firstly, embrace with patience Allah's Qadr/Decree.
Acknowledge the fact that dunya is temporary.
Every soul and living being whom Allah decrees
Us to meet in destined ways will die eventually.
The One Who never dies is Allah the Almighty.
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When some relatives pass away, when some colleagues leave,
And when the souls of your friends depart from their bodies,
Know that their lifespan and the date when they'd be deceased
Were already decreed by Allah the Almighty.
None can stop Allah if He wants someone's life to cease.
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When you come across people who remind you slightly
Of loved ones or acquaintances who died recently,
Or see their empty seat, or nostalgic memories
Of them sadden you, shed tears but don't weep unduly.
Weeping excessively shows one doubts Allah's Mercy.
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Whenever you miss a Muslim whom you previously
Spoke to often before they died unexpectedly,
Kindly mention them in your prayers regularly,
Asking Allah to forgive them, accept their good deeds,
And that you reunite in Jannah eventually.
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📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma from his father that the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The deceased is punished in his grave for the wailing done over him." (Avoid wailing or excessive crying over those who've returned to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.)
Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1292
In-book reference: Book 23, Hadith 51
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 23, Hadith 379
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: A man said, "O Messenger of Allah, which of the believers is the best?" The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those with the best character." The man said, "Which of the believers is the wisest?" The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who remember death often and have best prepared for it with good deeds; those are the wisest."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4259
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
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