💌 Ways to be a good friend to your husband even if
Your love is tough, in a long-distance relationship,
Your romance takes place in a polygynous marriage,
Work preoccupies him, or you don't have many kids:
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Firstly, love him for Allah's sake, take him as a gift
Granted by Allah for you to specially nourish,
Understand one another and each other assist
To reach Jannah where you can have whatever you wish.
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Second, when he disappoints you, give him excuses,
Just as you'd want him to be one who quickly forgives.
Admit he's a human too, prone to forget and slip.
Accept that he has his own limits and weaknesses.
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Third: If the man whom Allah picked is one who's complex,
Courageously see him as a problem you can fix,
A puzzle to solve with determination and wit,
While trusting Allah the Most Wise to grant you success.
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Four: Be patient with your spouse. Don't copy those who quit,
Who expect their men to be impossibly perfect.
Let your patience be so splendid that shaytan admits
Your strong Imaan shields you from falling into his tricks.
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Five: When your husband doesn't send enough messages
Or his way of communicating makes you upset,
Pardon him and empathize. In Jannah you won't fret.
Persevere with Sabr to pass all of Allah's tests.
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To be your husband's friend, stay patient, wise, and forgive.
Be much stronger than pride, black magic and selfishness,
Till you reunite in Jannah, glad you've succeeded,
Grateful too to Allah you're victorious in marriage.
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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to Al-Ashajj 'Abdul Al-Qays, "Verily, you have two qualities which are beloved to Allah. They are forbearance and patience."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are forbearance and modesty."
Source: Sahih Muslim 17
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim