Poem: What It Means To Actually Maintain Good Character

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Having good character, being "mabait" or kind, 

Doesn't mean giving freebies to people all the time. 

Some may be so shy, unable to fight for their rights, 

Yet when they're among close friends, they reveal their bad side 

When they tell lies, make fun of people's flaws and backbite. 

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Three signs of Muslims who are blessed with good character, 

Genuine manners maintained for Allah, with Sabr: 

One: They intensely hate backbiting and gossipers, 

Aware that Allah always hears each word we utter, 

And laughing at others' defects indicates kibr. 

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Two: They forgive and move on, don't waste time on revenge. 

They don't hatefully stalk profiles of their opponents, 

Don't insist on winning each debate and argument, 

And offline, if you know them, they're primarily silent, 

Occupied with Du'a, Adhkaar, and self-reflection.

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Three: They try their best to treat Allah's servants fairly. 

Cheerful around salespeople, janitors, and colleagues, 

Being the first to greet with the salaam frequently,

And not treating low-income workers unpleasantly, 

They strive to apply proper ethics consistently.

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You've no right to describe somebody as "rude" or "mean" 

If you're not well acquainted, if you converse rarely, 

And if you can't understand the whys behind their deeds. 

Good character is to be nice without being weak, 

Dealing with Allah's slaves with wise justice and mercy.

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, among the best of you are those with the best character."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3366

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Abu Nu’aym reported: Fudayl Ibn ‘Iyad, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If you mix with people, mix with those who have good character; it only invites to good. Do not mix with those who have bad character, for it only invites to evil.”

Source: Ḥilyat Al-Awliyā’ 11728

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Note: The Mindset Of An Ideal Muslim Wife Who Welcomes Polygyny For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Sample thoughts of almost every first/second/third/fourth wife who welcomes polygyny for Allah's sake:

💭 "I love my husband so much that I can't share him with another woman, yet the love I have for Allah the Almighty is far greater than the affection and compassion I have for my beloved spouse, thus Allah the Most Loving enlightened me to stay patient. Lovingly submitting to Allah's Will, I'm contentedly fine if my man is married to up to four wives. It's his absolute right granted by Allah the Most Wise which cannot be denied. While his tender lips may have touched those of so and so, his sweet gestures often mesmerizing this and that, my dear husband still remains as my destined other half. Our love may be vividly complicated that its formula to me may be more complex than the most intricate algebraic problem devoid of an apparent solution, yet because my love for Allah the Most Generous is a lot weightier than loving my soulmate, as Allah's Magnificent Wisdom in His Destiny supersedes infinity, I choose to love my hubby for Allah's sake faithfully, stubbornly and patiently. Loving my husband has deemed me obscurely estranged by many critics who can't comprehend my choices since they obviously do not know me. This love has made me cry numerous times when I'm preoccupied with saying Du'as to Allah the Most Merciful, late at night during Tahajjud, praying that Allah forgives my husband for those times when he unknowingly keeps me worried with perplexing anxiety, wondering how he's doing and before he retires to sleep in another city I ponder if he too often thinks of me. Don't ask me questions like "But what can you see in him?" nor naively claim "C'mon, you're still young. There are plenty of fishes in the sea." because ever since Allah Al-Hakeem connected my heart to that man's so we became each other's halves, I fell peacefully in love - a special box of emotions entangled to each other into a tightened knot which I refuse to untie as I'm not the kind that wants to satisfy enemies by abruptly giving up. 

I want our love to continue Inn-sha-Allah until we make it to Jannah Paradise above, where all desires are met, Muslim loved ones are reunited, and where we'll look back to our former tests which we've passed with Allah's Will, and we become even more grateful that we didn't stop doing the good deeds that made us earn Allah's Love."

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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