Poem: Seven Things To Do To Respect Muslims Who Have Died

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Seven things to do to respect Muslims who have died: 

One: Say the prescribed Du'a when living beings die. 

We come from Allah and to Him we'll return sometime. 

While it's fine to shed tears or feel distraught from inside, 

Strive to keep calm and avoid acts which Allah dislikes. 

~•~

Two: When the corpse is being washed, try your best to hide 

Their private parts, and their flaws to others don't describe. 

Three: Ensure when they're buried, you lay them on their right, 

Facing the Qiblah if its direction you can find, 

And don't decorate gravestones as it isn't required. 

~•~

Four: Mention them in your Du'as nearly day and night. 

Pray to Allah that He forgives their mistakes and slights, 

And that their place in Barzakh is wide and full of light. 

Five: Speak of them kindly. About their sins don't backbite. 

Dissing the deceased can distress those who are alive.

~•~

Six: Make sure that they didn't leave any debts behind. 

If they owe anyone money, pay the debt on time.

And if they borrowed items, give the owners their rights. 

If they're lost, on behalf of the dead apologize. 

And if they have some missed fasts, complete them if you like.

~•~

Seven: Refrain from posting photos of them online 

And writing letters which the buried can't scrutinize. 

Instead of spreading their pictures to memorialize, 

Include them in Du'as, while praying Qiyaam Al-Layl 

And when sweet memories of them come from time to time.

~•~

📖 Al-Mughirah Ibn Shu’bah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not abuse the dead and thus hurt the living."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1982

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not abuse the dead, for they have reached what they put forward."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When your companion (friend or loved one) dies, leave him alone without speaking badly about him."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1329

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: A woman came to the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and she said, "My mother has died and she owed a month of fasting." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you think if she had a debt you would repay it on her behalf?" She said "yes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The debts of Allah are more worthy to be repaid."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1902

Sahih Muslim 1132

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Ibn ‘Umar RadhiAllahu ‘anhuma narrated from his father that the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The deceased is punished in his grave for the wailing done over him."

Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1292

In-book reference: Book 23, Hadith 51

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 23, Hadith 379

📖 Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu ‘anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I prohibited you from visiting the graves, but visit them now. Verily, they will weaken your attachment to the world and remind you of the Hereafter."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1571

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

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Tips: Acting Mean Or Obnoxiously "Savage" Isn't From The Qualities Of An Ideal Muslimah

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Some females wrongly assume that being an "ice princess" or unemotional "ice queen" portrays you're a strong woman when in reality disrespect, rudeness and unjustifiable aloofness are typical traits of the highly insecure.

While it's your absolute right to choose who gets to be in your squad of close friends, your pickiness is not valid excuse for you to obnoxiously treat others rudely, ignore other Muslims' salaam just because you don't know them, and childishly gossip about those whom you disagree with. 

People who secretly hate themselves, who are unhappy with their current lives, or who have extremely low self-esteem are more likely to channel their negative energy into others by being rude and disrespectful while maintaining an angry scowl. They're the type of individuals who instantly assume you're being fake whenever they find you smiling, or who suspect you're trying to bribe them when you behave in a friendly manner. If you give them a gift, they'll probably ask questions like "What's the occasion? Is there something you want from me?" or "Are you trying to tell me that I'm poor and you're rich? Why are you giving this to me, I didn't ask for it."

Their mindset is full of so much negativity that nearly whatever act of kindness you do they return it with disdain, scornful indifference or rejection. With these types of souls whom Allah the Most Wise decreed that we encounter, we are trained to enhance our level of patience, gain inner strength, and express gratitude Alhamdulillah that we are nothing like them. 

Even if certain acquaintances or strangers accuse us of being "plastic" or "pretentious" because they obviously are not familiar with what we're really like, we continue being kind and generous for Allah's sake whenever we can. Kindness isn't restricted to constantly spoiling friends with tangible gifts and freebies, but in sharing Islamic knowledge generously for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, defending them when they aren't around, cheering them up when their moods go down, praying for them regularly, and in being the trustworthy friend whom Allah expects us to be. 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 8945

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Arna’ut

Tips: Some Signs That You And Certain People Weren't Meant To Connect

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Signs that a person was not meant for you or destined to be with you (as a friend, spouse or business partner etc.):

1] Even if you have some things in common, you still don't feel at ease in their presence. You're not comfortable around them for some reason. You'd rather be alone sleeping, reading a book or contemplating than actively chatting with them. 

2] Interactions with them feel forced and your conversations don't flow smoothly. It's either because you're mostly the one talking, you can't relate to them or they find your overall habits too cringy. 

3] They can be your neighbors for several years yet you still wouldn't bother visiting them, since you can't think of enough topics to discuss and interesting activities to peacefully bond over with. 

4] They left your messages on seen mode numerous times. When you want to contact them, they're readily unavailable. Trying to reach out to them for a long productive discussion is something almost impossible.

5] The respect, care and trust are clearly one-sided. You're usually the one enthusiastically checking on them to see how they're doing. They rarely reciprocate or return your favors. 

✨ Signs that someone 

Inn-sha-Allah was meant to be in your circle:

1] They've appeared in front you online and offline multiple times. No matter how much effort you make in trying to avoid them, they usually show up as though they're accessible, available and approachable. 

2] Dialogues with them are generally fun, informative and beneficial. After interacting with them, you sense your faith/Imaan levels going up, and you eagerly look forward to speaking again in the future.

3] The more you get to know them and the more truths you discover about them, the more you like them for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

4] Regardless of where they reside, whether they live some miles away in the same city or they are located in another country, you wish you were neighbors so you can spend quality time with one another more frequently.

5] The love for Allah's sake, trust and respect are mutual. There is no jealousy, doubt and negative feelings between you two. Even if they may be more successful or efficient at something than you somehow, seeing them do well in their Deen and dunya can't trigger any feeling of envy because you want what's best for them, just as you hope they want you to thrive similarly. 

🔸 How to deal with those who aren't meant for us:

1] Accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny patiently. 

2] Acknowledge the fact that not everyone can agree with our beliefs and perceptions. We're here to serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in a way that we believe is right, not make duplicate copies of ourselves out of Allah's creation.

3] Understand that sometimes a person may reject us because we unintentionally remind them of their weaknesses, insecurities, and shortcomings. So long as we strive to treat everyone as fairly as we can, we're not responsible for people's emotions and reactions to our existence. 

4] Why worry too much about being liked by people when they themselves are overloaded with their own set of struggles, priorities and problems? Plus on the Day of Resurrection they'll be questioned for their actions and decisions?

With Allah's Love and Guidance, we cannot be incomplete nor lonesome. 

5] None of Allah's Prophets, 'alaihim as-salaam, especially the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam were completely loved and accepted by each and every soul who heard about them. Hundreds of unbelievers and hypocrites, including from their relatives, caused damage to their own selves by stubbornly rejecting their calls and wrongly assumed those Prophets were lying. 

Allah's Love for us does not depend on how we are treated and viewed by Allah's servants. Persistently keep doing good deeds sincerely for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in spite of people's criticism, doubts and opposition.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109, Sahih Muslim 2638

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Al-Nawawi said, “When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil.”

Source: Sharh Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 2638

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