Tuesday, August 10, 2021

Tips: INTJ personality type vs INFJ

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Seven ways that INTJ personality types and INFJs are different, despite their general potential to become good friends as they're both future-oriented, intuitive, selectively curious, insightful, and focused on the big picture:
1] INTJs are generally thick-skinned and unafraid of criticism. INFJs can be somewhat sensitive and it may take a while for them to emotionally heal after their feelings have been hurt.
2] INTJs when trying to accomplish tasks or complete projects would try their best to get done with them even if their choices may upset some individuals. Efficiency is more important to them than sparing people's emotions. INFJs in contrast would do what they can to ensure that each action they take doesn't negatively impact anybody in their group, team, or workplace.
3] INTJs in social settings would avoid doing anything which contradicts their values. With stubbornness they won't attempt to change their overall behavior to impress people, unless they're talking to somebody whom they genuinely care about. 
INFJs have a tendency to treat every individual according to their temperament, personality, and level of familiarity. They're willing to kindly adjust their conduct or attitude based on who they're interacting with.
4] When offering advice, an INTJ would likely start their statements with "If I were you..." or "if I was in your situation..." and provide useful suggestions, straightforward feedback, or quick solutions according to what they truly believe is most logical, reasonable, and rational. An INFJ would typically put themselves in your shoes when advising, or suggest the most idealistic methods for you to handle your problems, or listen patiently to your complaints and show empathy.
5] When an INTJ resolutely decides to cease a connection or transaction with you, or when they've cancelled their interest in wanting to be more than mere acquaintance, their dismissal has nothing to do with wounded feelings but they can't find any logic, purpose, or significant value in your association. An INFJ on the other hand would "door slam" or completely detach from those who took their feelings for granted, who were intolerably inconsiderate, and who didn't reciprocate their loyalty and integrity.
6] INTJs can be a lot more tolerant and patient with their families and loved ones, while being aloof, indifferent, or distrustful around strangers. A number of INFJs are more able to have patience with strangers than with family members whom they consider toxic or uncooperative.
7] While both INTJs and INFJs (the healthy types) intensely abhor gossiping, INTJs refrain from discussing people's flaws because they think it's illogical to mock others' demerits when you yourself likewise have imperfections. INFJs (the mature ones) dislike backbiting because seeing others get mistreated upsets them, specially if they can't do much to stop the rumors, or they can imagine themselves being the next subjects of their gossip if they'd do something which would disappoint those gossipers. 

🔹 You can Inn-sha-Allah get along harmoniously with any MBTI personality type if: 
1] You both understand each other's language, dialect or way of speaking, while the respect is mutual. 
2] Jealousy, pride/kibr, selfishness, insecurities, lies or suspicion do not get in the way of your dealings and interactions. 
3] You can stay patient, lenient, and forgiving for Allah's sake with one another mutually.
4] You have several qualities, interests, or life experiences in common. 
5] You both sincerely strive to do what Allah the Almighty likes, not mainly what your nafs or ego desires. 
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 
By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 
📋 To discover what your MBTI personality type is:
https://my-personality-test.com/personality-type-indicator 
https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test 
http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/
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https://www.idrlabs.com/test/intj-or-infj.php

Poem: INTJs And INFJs Enjoy Their Solitude

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Calling an INTJ/INFJ "lonely" 
Is as absurd as nicknaming a cat "chimpanzee", 
As irrational as singing to an apple tree, 
Confessing your "love" when it can't even get married, 
And as cringey as labelling your toes "sweet candies". 
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We're not "lonely", not "desperate for fake company", 
Not "eager to listen to gossip and people-please", 
And not "so naive that we become instant besties 
With any human, monkey and actor that we meet.".
We're true introverts who choose our close friends carefully. 
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Those guilty of these receive bye and adios from me: 
Talking badly behind people's backs so cowardly, 
Making lame jokes that are more offensive than funny, 
Telling lies more than Pinocchio can lie purposely, 
And having nothing worthwhile to share, offer, and teach. 
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I'd rather be "lonely" yet still earn Allah's Mercy 
Than displease Allah by disrupting my piety 
Through socializing with clowns who backbite constantly, 
Who act as if they care when they carry jealousy, 
And who prove that books are better than clear fakery.
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Alhamdulillah. I have Allah, my family, 
My spouse and his kids, and Angels who record our deeds, 
And reading the Qur'an often brings serenity. 
Introverted Muslims cherish solitude, so please 
Don't assume we're "alone" when Allah sees you and me.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-trust-allah-and-you-cant-feel.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-not-lonely-since-allah-is-with-me.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-solitude-with-allah-is-better-than.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-advice-to-deal-with-loneliness-or.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-five-secrets-to-not-feeling-lonely.html