Note: How Most INTJ Personality Types Deal With Making Friends And Maintaining Friendships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some facts about most INTJ personality types regarding making friends and maintaining friendships: 

1] Since INTJ Muslims are introverted, they welcome solitude, and would rather spend quality time with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala than attempt to build a shallow link with a person who's clearly incompatible in many ways. 

2] Generally a typical INTJ doesn't feel "lonely", specially if they're aware that those who surround them at work, school, or home are too different from them in terms of values, goals, likes, dislikes, and overall temperament. 

3] INTJs intensely abhor lies, inaccuracies, false rumors, deceitfulness, and gossiping. A quick way to successfully turn off INTJs and inspire them to lose interest in wanting to befriend you is by criticizing other people behind their backs, backbiting, or basically proving you're morally obnoxious. If you can afford to backbite about another Muslim in my presence, I wouldn't be flabbergasted if you did the same when I'm not around. 

4] INTJs value seeking knowledge, striving to apply what they've learned, and enjoy meaningful discussions from which they can learn something valuable, useful, and productive. If you're somebody who despises learning and have nothing significant to teach us, a lot of INTJs may find you uninteresting, even if you likewise perceive us as boring "intellectuals" or "nerds".

5] A lot of INTJs have a preference for writing and sharing some of their thoughts or ideas through text than expressing themselves verbally. Don't be surprised if you notice that an INTJ seems brief when you're talking to them face to face, while they're not as verbose or talkative as they are when they communicate online. 

6] You know that an INTJ regards you as a friend if: At least three times they made sincere effort to send you a message or visit you, asked you for some advice because they respect your frank opinion, or showed you their vulnerable side, feeling comfortable enough to shed tears in front of you. 

7] INTJs find more enjoyment in discussing about the future than the past, more about theories than people's personal issues, and researching solutions rather than ranting. When attending a gathering or conference where most people are blabbering about irrelevant topics, an INTJ mostly remains silent yet observant, and may speak out only if they care enough to correct someone's misinformation. 

8] INTJs are low-maintenance friends who don't obligate their loved ones to reach out 24/7. So if you're a cousin or childhood friend, Alhamdulillah we're still on good terms, meaning I don't hold any grudge against you despite the fact that we haven't spoken to each other for several months or years.

9] INTJs are not clingy. We understand that we can't compel anybody to stay in our circle if they decide to leave anytime for whatever reason. Thus having ex-friends or temporary connections is something we're already used to, and we're not the kind of person who cries over a toxic bond, irrevocable mistake, or failed experiment. If an INTJ can't solve or tolerate a particular problem, we gladly move on, uninterested in looking back on what Allah the Most Wise didn't destine. 

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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

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Poem: Minimize Or Avoid Stress By Doing Every Task For Allah's Sake Only

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Don't be too selfish that when you're stressed you quickly guess 

Or assume you're the only one whose life is a mess. 

There are thousands of other humans who go through tests, 

And, like you, undergo moments when they get upset, 

Anxious, tired, confused, and occasionally depressed. 

~•~

When tons of tasks and documents make you exhausted, 

When you wonder if ever you can settle your debts, 

Or fret over how you'll achieve your goals and projects, 

That other souls worldwide also struggle don't forget. 

You're not the only one on earth who encounters stress. 

~•~

All these and others are familiar with feeling stressed: 

Police officers, security guards, pharmacists, 

Teachers, school managers, administrators, nurses, 

Doctors, surgeons, construction workers, retailers, chefs, 

Students, parents, janitors, drivers, and journalists.

~•~ 

Lessen stress or avoid it with positive mindset. 

Tell yourself often, while trusting Allah, this message: 

"With this job I intend to please Allah, pass His tests, 

And earn halal income so my basic needs are met, 

To support my fam, and assist the less fortunate. 

~•~ 

To serve Allah first and foremost I shall do my best, 

Ensuring that my prayers are never neglected. 

So I don't tag myself as 'stressed out' but passionate 

And dedicated, I always have my niyyah fixed 

To strive just for Allah and gain Jannah's endless rest."

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

Poem: Some Things You Can Do To Manage Stress As A Muslim

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Thirteen things you can do to cope with stress, as Muslims, 

When duties accumulate and chores become tiring, 

Or when loved ones' problems increase your complications, 

So rather than giving up, you choose to keep going, 

Striving in dunya for Allah until you meet Him: 

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One: Pray on time, so your heart doesn't feel it's missing 

Something. Hearts can't relax if they're stained with guilt and sins. 

Two: Say lots of Adhkaar, in the daytime and evening. 

Say Dhikr in your free time, while working and waiting, 

And let Istighfaar fill up your record of actions.

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Three: Instead of talking to friends prone to gossiping, 

Supplicate to Allah Who sees your situation. 

Four: Frequently read the Qur'an with deep reflection. 

Check the Tafseer to understand the verses' meanings. 

There's special healing when you read the Qur'an often.

~•~

Five: Reflect on the good times, recall Allah's blessings, 

And remember Allah loves Muslims who stay patient. 

Six: Take up lawful hobbies, such as cooking, writing, 

Calligraphy, drawing or sketching non-living things, 

Learning a foreign language, carpentry, and crafting.

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Seven: Seek Islamic knowledge so your faith strengthens. 

Attend Islamic classes, or to lectures listen. 

Eight: Shun music. Keep calm with Qur'an recitations. 

Nine: Take midday naps while hearing Qur'an recordings, 

Or lie in bed and say Dhikr until you're sleeping.

~•~

Ten: Practice positive self-talk, self-affirmation, 

And study articles that boost healthy confidence. 

Eleven: Go out more to view Allah's creation.

Admire how Allah designed nature, trees and oceans. 

Or watch documentaries of Allah's inventions.

~•~

Twelve: Appreciate the senses Allah has given 

In halal ways, like caress furry cats and kittens, 

Gaze at cloudy skies, or take good care of some children.

Thirteen: Be content knowing life is not permanent, 

And pray Jannatul Ferdaus is our destination.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani