Note: Three Reasons Why Our Vibes Conflict With Some People's Energy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three reasons why we can sense negative energy from certain people, no matter how much they put up a facade and appear friendly, and we want nothing to do with them, while their incompatible vibes are welcome by others:

1] If we have strong intuition or empathy (granted by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala), we can feel that they don't genuinely like us, or they envy us for some reason. As a result, we somehow reciprocate their actual sentiments. 

2] Something which is linked to them, such as their name, attitude, or overall appearance, reminds us of a toxic individual who treated us unjustly in the past. So to preserve our emotional well-being, we tend to be aloof towards anybody who triggers unpleasant emotions. 

3] They've displayed qualities which we don't wish to have or they purposely do things which we would never want to be found doing, such as gossiping, deceiving, and immaturely making fun of people's flaws. It feels wrong to pretend to agree with those whose values, life experiences, and goals clash with ours. 

A leopard would rather spend time with other big cats like jaguars and tigers than awkwardly mingle with furry animals that flee upon its arrival. Perceiving someone as a threat, source of discomfort, or distraction, is usually why we can't mesh well with some people's aura.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

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Tips: How To Deal With Insecure Individuals Who Try To Make You Feel Jealous

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Three signs that a co-wife, relative, friend, neighbor, or colleague sometimes goes out of their way to make you feel envious: 

1] You notice a pattern in them consistently trying to brag about something they have, accomplished, observed, did, or invented whenever you must interact with them. While they're delighted to lecture about themselves and their accomplishments as you attempt to listen patiently with empathy, they fall silent or act indifferent as soon as it's your turn to speak. 

2] They almost never ask about how you're doing and they're rarely concerned for your loved ones, fearful that every time you share good news or several interesting aspects about yourself, they get emotionally provoked by envy. 

3] You've noticed multiple times that after they've been obnoxiously acting like narcissistic braggarts, with zero interest to inspire anybody but inflate their ginormous ego, or carried out an immaturely passive-aggressive act, they give you a smug look as though they're patting themselves on the back, proud of one-upping you yet again. 

🏳️ Three ways to cope with insecure individuals who would do anything idiotic to see you appear jealous: 

1] Empathize. Visualize yourself as a compassionate kindergarten teacher who finds amusement in listening to the fabricated stories of selfish brats who demand attention, without feeling obliged to acknowledge their drama or false narrations. 

2] Don't allow them to distract you from the countless blessings which Allah the Almighty wisely chose to give you. Maintain gratitude for what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala granted. Avoid comparing your unique tests and development to others' exams and progress. Wolves and lions can't be their optimum selves if they constantly compete in attaining whatever goats and monkeys love to collect.

3] If their insecure vibes and negative energy are too intolerable for you, you have every right to unfollow them on social media and minimize trivial interactions with them, whilst still maintaining basic politeness. Your character, integrity, and morals mustn't be as low as theirs.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719

Sahih Muslim 2563

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani  

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Tips: On How To Deal With OCD, Intrusive Thoughts And Waswaas

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Whether some people call it OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder) while many believe that receiving intrusive thoughts is one of shaytan's schemes to mislead humanity, a lot of Muslims occasionally struggle with unwanted imaginations, indecent fantasies, baseless suspicions, unjustified doubts, or uncontrollable impulses which they try to suppress because of how inappropriate they actually are. 

🔹 Through these unwanted thoughts, evil suggestions, or waswaas, shaytan aims to: 

1] ...confuse Muslims regarding their belief / 'Aqeedah or cause them to feel unsure about Islam until they decide to become apostates. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 

2] ...make Muslims get tired of worshipping Allah the Almighty by confusing them regarding the number of times they've washed a body part while performing wudhu / ablution, which unit they're in while praying, and if they prayed the correct amount of Rak'ahs for each prayer. 

3] ...distress or emotionally disturb Muslims who guess they're "in love" until they act on a sexual urge and commit zina with someone of the opposite gender, with the same gender, or with oneself. 

4] ...waste the time of Muslims so instead of moving on to the next assignment or task, they're still preoccupied with an activity, unnecessarily performing it multiple times until it reaches unreasonable perfection. 

5] ...intimidate non-Muslims who are interested in accepting the truth by misleading them into assuming that it is difficult to be a Muslim, as the way some Muslims perform religious rituals or good deeds appears to be too tiring, challenging, or intolerable. 

🔹 What we can Inn-sha-Allah do to overcome waswaas or OCD thoughts: 

1] Ignore them as much as you can, while being aware that they're only shaytan's evil insinuations, in the same manner as you'd ignore packs of cigarettes in a store because you know that smoking is destructive to yourself and others. 

2] If you're unable to ignore them, then accept them as real without acting upon them, without discussing them with another Muslim, and without acknowledging that they're okay when they aren't. For instance, if you have a brief crush on an unattainable person, admit that you really like them, but you won't chase them, since you don't wish to get into any trouble in this world and the next. 

3] Consistently pray to Allah the Most Wise that such foul thoughts stop disturbing you, or that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala grants you more guidance, patience, and strength to pass all His tests. 

4] Substitute immoral thoughts with better ones, especially Du'a / supplications, Adhkaar, Istighfaar, frequent Qur'an recitation, and regularly contemplating on the reality of death whilst preparing yourself to meet Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in a noble condition. 

5] Actively avoid toxic people, online content, objects, gatherings, and situations which remind you of past sins, could trigger those bad thoughts, or incite you to behave improperly. The farther you are from what can stir up fitna, the safer is your faith/Imaan and overall well-being.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves (inappropriate thoughts, imaginations, or feelings), as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287 

Sahih Muslim 127

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah (the Almighty) has pardoned my nation for their mistakes, their forgetfulness, and what they are coerced (forced, compelled) into doing."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 2043

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani