💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Question: As an unemotional personality type (INTJ), how do you logically react when some users leave your messages on "seen" mode and they didn't answer you in a way that you'd want them to, especially if the recipients of your announcements or questions are colleagues, fellow teachers, or students who aren't taking online studies seriously?
📝 Answer: I would feel slightly disappointed that they didn't respond in a timely manner, but at the same time I wouldn't be very surprised because I understand that not all people on earth were blessed to enjoy proper upbringing, they may have had a miserable childhood which explains their awful lack of manners, or they're struggling with a serious personality disorder which triggers them to misbehave online and offline. Just because a person has deserved the description of being "undependable", "untrustworthy", "uncooperative", "insecure" or "irresponsible" in my opinion, doesn't mean I have to act like them nor absorb or duplicate their obnoxious misconduct.
I'd feel glad and grateful Alhamdulillah that at least I did my job. I did what I could to carry out the tasks which were assigned for me, which are doable, and which don't go against any of the orders of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
If some users purposely ignored my messages, I believe that they'll be held accountable for every action they choose to do and not do.
On Judgment Day Inn-sha-Allah all of the souls whom Allah the Most Wise has decreed that we'd encounter shall see the fruits of their toil and outcomes of how they intentionally dealt with Allah's servants.
One secret to not easily getting offended with people's rejection or refusal to correspond with us is to imagine ourselves being in their situation.
📨 Maybe they didn't answer our message nor react to it because:
1] They probably thought we're not expecting a clear response from them or they mustn't answer back out of respect according to their own perspective. Maybe they assume that a thumbs up emoji, "OK", or "yes" is rude, so no response but "seen" is their way of silently saying "roger", "alrighty", "I understood your message. Can I sleep now?".
2] Somebody else from their residence or workplace borrowed their cellphone and unknowingly opened our message thread without informing the original recipient about it, and the latter wasn't aware of our message because they received newer messages which kept them preoccupied from checking ours.
3] It could be that they're so intimidated by our forceful personality or overwhelmed by numerous messages waiting for them in their inbox, and they got tired of finding it challenging to nervously type an immediate response with shaky or sweaty fingers.
Alhamdulillah. What matters anyway is that they got the message and we did what we're supposed to do.
4] If they were attempting to display childish disrespect, and they're ignorant of the proper ways to interact with other humans on the web, visualize being a soccer or volleyball player who throws the ball at them only for them to get hit while standing still unresponsive. If they are incapable of responding, because they're uneducated about basic netiquette or internet etiquette, simply move on to the next recipient and don't be flabbergasted if they similarly fail to react decently.
Thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for being among the minority whom He has guided to having a beautiful heart which causes a lot of people to feel envious or ethically inferior because nearly each time they talk to you, your confident vibes remind them of the pleasant qualities they lack.
5] Or maybe they noticed our message but in the midst of typing a reply, something else came up, such as an emergency, they had to pray / perform Salah first, playful kids were borrowing their cellphone or laptop, or they temporarily lost internet connection, until they genuinely forgot to check our messages when the network connectivity became stable again.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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