💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Question: As a Muslim INTJ personality type, how do you deal with jealousy? Or what is your coping strategy whenever you feel slightly jealous of a friend?
📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah since I'm one of those who strive to stay contented with Allah's Qadr/Decree, I'd say I hardly feel envious of others' tests and blessings. There are moments though when a female acquaintance would share some joyful news about her spouse, specially if they get to see each other a lot more often than I do with my husband, but her act of sharing her joys doesn't compel me to insecurely indulge in gossip. Instead I'd be inspired to be extra loyal, additionally grateful, and more appreciative of my husband.
Another secret or tactic I try in order to avoid acting upon jealous emotions is reminding myself of the negative qualities or different struggles found in the person who's bragging about to make me feel "jealous". For instance, if "A" appears to be so proud of how her husband takes her out to a fancy restaurant on a weekly basis, I recall how I'm blessed Alhamdulillah to not have her unpleasant tendency to occasionally tell lies and how she is incapable of doing some of the things which I can do Alhamdulillah such as reading Arabic text without the harakaat or vowels etc.
If it's clear that other Muslims seem to enjoy their marriages, I'd train myself to be happy for them for Allah's sake because Allah the Most Wise is the One Who chose those sources of joy to examine their faith/Imaan, while I'd reminisce about the good times when my own husband and I traveled to various cities and spent time together before he became busier with his medical work Alhamdulillah.
The stronger your belief in Allah's Wisdom and Justice in the way He distributed the gifts to His servants, the less you're prone to feeling insecure, "unaccomplished" or "inferior" whenever you notice others enjoying what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decided to grant His slaves to determine if they'll be thankful for those favors, if they'll behave arrogantly due to what they've been given (such as pleasant looks, tall height, and access to knowledge etc.) and if they can benefit other servants through them by inspiring, advising, or assisting others to reach the same goals which they've achieved with Allah's Will. Alhamdulillah.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a (true believer) believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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