Note: Some Advice On How To Deal With Being Treated Disrespectfully

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ How to deal with being treated disrespectfully... 

🔹 ...by someone who's a complete stranger and who may possibly not interact with you again in the future (such as unfriendly salespeople, insolent waiters, rude customers, bad-tempered staff, and grumpy taxi drivers etc.): 

1➡️ Cleverly analyze why they may be acting that way and have the strength to practice empathy. Maybe they're in a bad mood because: 

1✨ ...that's their last day / night at work and they're anxious concerning how to cope with unemployment. 

2✨ ...they haven't eaten anything for several hours and their hunger is what's triggering their irritability. 

3✨ ...they've just had a fight or argument with somebody whom they thought could be trusted. 

4.✨ ...they came back from a barber shop and they despise their awful haircut which is unfixable. 

5✨ ...they're brokenhearted, someone they admire rejected them and they loathe being single. 

6✨ ...they tried asking their employer or manager for a raise and instantly their request was denied. 

7✨ ...they haven't slept well in a long time, and their grumpiness is due to feeling groggy. 

8✨ ...a number of their loved ones are not giving them the respect which they demand, so they take out their frustration on strangers to soothe their emotional wounds. 

9✨ ...they generally dislike themselves and the job they accepted reluctantly. Their self-loathing is what leads them to treat other humans ungraciously.

2➡️ Thank Allah the Almighty that you're not the insecure individual who is emphasizing their lack of confidence by acting like a bully to others. It is more unfortunate and deplorable to be in that person's wretched circumstance (as they could be struggling with misery inwardly or they're being mistreated by somebody else which compels them to act obnoxiously) than to be the one on the receiving end of lousy conduct. 

3➡️ Since you understand what it feels like to be treated disrespectfully, be motivated to maintain good character, as much as possible, with every soul whom Allah the Most Wise destines you'd meet. 

🔹 ...if the disrespectful person is a family member, acquaintance or colleague whom you see frequently: 

1✨ Stay patient with them for Allah's sake, particularly if you can figure out what's causing them to act inappropriately. 

Are they missing somebody? Did they skip a meal? Do they need to take a nap to feel more energized? Have you forgotten something which they requested you to do? What if they misbehaved out of compulsion and someone else commanded them to treat you rudely due to that outsider's insecurities and immaturity? Are they actually depressed? Perhaps they can't stand being jealous of you?

2✨ Minimize unnecessary interactions and meaningless conversations with people who are knowingly toxic or disrespectful. Don't bother checking their posts and comments on social media either.

3✨ Instead of wanting to retaliate and verbally get back at those who've been unpleasant, confidently believe that Allah the Most Wise will deal with them justly at the most ideal timing, and conduct yourself as the more emotionally mature adult, as though you're a calm kindergarten teacher attempting to sympathize with a little child throwing a tantrum. While we can't always change or influence how people choose to behave, we have the freedom to cautiously select who from Allah's servants deserve our actual care, attention and reactions.

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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and purposely committing oppression / injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

"The supplications of three persons are never turned away (rejected): A fasting person until he breaks his fast, a just ruler, and the supplication of the oppressed which is raised by Allah above the clouds, the gates of Paradise are opened for it, and Allah the Almighty says: 'By My Might and Majesty, I will help you in due time.'"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3598 Grade: Sahih

Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said:

"Beware of the supplication of the oppressed (Du'a against the oppressive person), for the supplication of the oppressed is answered."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa 1890 

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