💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Five things we should not expect from somebody who is struggling from actual kibr / narcissism:
1🌼 Truth:
A lot of narcissists like to invent supposedly remarkable stories about themselves most of which aren't true, intending to make themselves appear "special" or "superior" to individuals whom they're secretly envious of.
❎ For example: A narcissistic woman in her fifties frequently brags to her neighbors that she worked as a photographer for a magazine in the middle east, while in reality she was employed as a housemaid in Saudi Arabia for only two years. Her lies are designed to inflate her own ego, as she can't afford to be truthful concerning her previous occupation.
2🌼 Support / sympathy / words of encouragement:
Since narcissists are typically more concerned about their wants than others' needs, they're unable to display empathy for anybody unless that individual can clearly benefit them in numerous ways.
❎ For example: A narcissistic "friend" almost never shares your online posts regarding your halal business or affordable items you're showcasing for sale because they don't want you to succeed in any way.
3🌼 Sincere apologies:
The pride or ego of a typical narcissist is usually so enormous that they are misled to assume they're too "flawless" and "infallible" to commit a single mistake. Their deluded attitude prevents them from courageously acknowledging their faults and saying sorry whenever they are aware of having done something wrong.
❎ For example: A narcissistic professor or instructor who publicly scolded you some time ago for something they wrongly assumed about you wouldn't bother reaching out to you to apologize, even if they realized after the incident that they are actually the one who is at fault.
4🌼 Strength to forgive and accept an apology:
If a typical narcissist is too proud and too cowardly to sincerely apologize, likewise they'd be too egotistical, too selfish, and too insecure to pardon you.
❎ For example: A narcissistic cousin with whom you had an argument about a particular topic, whether serious or trivial, pridefully refuses to communicate with you because they're still offended by your opposition to their views.
5🌼 Actual good character/ integrity / reliability:
Although some narcissists seem eloquent and charismatic, if you really spend time around them, you'd witness that they truly lack decent manners, they're mostly unreliable, and they'd treat you disrespectfully whenever an opportunity arises.
❎ For example: Narcissist colleagues purposely ignoring your salaams while answering others' greetings "cordially", "clumsily" bumping your shoulder when walking by, and refraining from responding to most of your messages so you can feel as sorrowful as they are, conducting themselves obnoxiously because these narcissists can't stand feeling so jealous of you.
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhārī 5743
Sahih Muslim 2607
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim