Friday, August 5, 2022

Tips: Advice On How To Avoid Feeling So Insecure About One's Appearance

πŸ’ In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

πŸ—’️ Question: What advice can you give to those who feel insecure about their general appearance, who dislike how their teeth look, or who know they're not very good-looking when compared to their siblings, cousins or acquaintances? 
πŸ“ Answer: 1] As a Muslim, Alhamdulillah, strive to be patient and contented with how Allah the Almighty designed you. Recall that our main goal in life is to serve and please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not His servants, regardless of our looks. 
2] Understand that many of those supposedly "flawless" and attractive celebrities and social media influencers went through cosmetic surgery and/or spent large amounts of money on modifying their appearance, which shows they're either arrogantly discontented with how Allah the Most Wise created them or they are actually so unconfident that they feel compelled to alter their looks to cowardly avoid criticism from society. Be grateful Alhamdulillah that you don't have their kibr / arrogance, despicable attachment to this fleeting dunya, or low self-esteem.
3] Quit consistently comparing yourself to other people, particularly if those individuals are not guided by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala yet to the truth Islam. Whenever shaytan wants you to become upset so your faith / Imaan level can decrease (many Muslims usually feel less eager to do good deeds for Allah's sake when their level of faith / Imaan is low), especially after you've noticed how others seem to surpass you in certain aspects, disappoint shaytan by thanking Allah the Most Loving for all the favors, gifts and blessings which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose to bestow upon you, such as being blessed with at least one parent or loved one who cares about you as well as the ability to read from the Noble Qur'an in Arabic language. 
4] Know that physical attractiveness alone will not guarantee true happiness and success in both worlds. A lot of females worldwide whom many societies would describe as "beautiful", "gorgeous" and "cute" may actually be very unhappy and depressed on the inside, specifically if they don't have a meaningful purpose, and our main goal in life is to worship Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, despite how we look. 
5] A person isn't truly beautiful if their heart is tainted by unpleasant feelings including jealousy and resentment against anybody whose qualities or achievements (granted by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) trigger them to feel "inferior" or "inadequate". Thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for granting you better self-awareness and realization that faith / Imaan, sincerity / Ikhlaas, dignified manners, patiently striving for Jannah Paradise, and inner beauty are much more important than desperately seeking people's admiration for a pretty face. 
6] Realize that any person who calls you "ugly" or claims that you look unattractive is in reality insecure and emotionally wounded from within. Genuinely confident people don't walk around bullying others, acting like egotistical snobs, and spreading bad vibes. 
7] Firmly believe that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala already selected the souls who can get along with you and who'll love you for His sake beyond your overall appearance.
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πŸ“– Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way to not belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125 
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
πŸ“– Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah does not look at your appearance or wealth, but rather He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) looks at your hearts and actions."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2564
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim