Tips: Advice From An INTJ Muslim To Younger INTJs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ personality type, what advice can you give to younger INTJs?

📝 Answer: 1] Understand that your abilities to think, analyze and distinguish between wrong and right come from Allah the Almighty, not from your own fallible human self. Intelligence and creativity are actually tests from Allah the Most Wise to observe how you will utilize them. 

2] Never assume that you're well-informed enough about many things, since other individuals are more knowledgeable, competent and experienced than you in different fields. There's always something you can learn from every living being whom you're destined to meet. 

3] The more you sincerely acquire authentic knowledge for Allah's sake, the more you're capable of applying patience, empathy and genuine humility. While arrogant people act as if they know everything or they're unwilling to have their errors corrected, the more you learn about Islam and research on self-development, the easier it is for you to welcome advice and generously share helpful tips to inspire others and so their moods can be uplifted. 

4] Don't keep blaming others for their mistakes nor constantly scold yourself for any plan that fails. Patiently accept that projects which didn't go well or certain tests you couldn't pass were all decreed by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Learn from every mistake. If the same error occurs again, consistently do Tawbah (seek Allah's Forgiveness) and refuse to quit learning.

5] Don't be surprised if a number of people label you as "arrogant" or "stuck-up". Only those who lack actual confidence and awareness of various personality types would accuse you of "arrogance" when you're only being frank, direct, straightforward, true to your values and focused on achieving your goals. 

6] You have every right to cautiously select who you regard as a close friend. One reliable friend, such as your loving spouse, parent or sibling (or half-sibling), is better than a large group of acquaintances most of whom are incompatible and inauthentic. 

7] Occasionally you may encounter insecure individuals who go out of their way to make you feel "jealous" or see you feeling upset, as they're intimidated by you or count your strong personality, steadfast faith/Imaan or inner beauty as a threat. Just because somebody is unhappy from inside which urges them to treat you badly doesn't necessitate you to imitate their childish acts and absorb their negative energy. Visualize incessant braggarts as little kids enthusiastically flaunting their scribbles or fictional tales they've invented. Compliment them out of sympathy and thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that you're not the one who lacks self-esteem. 

8] Oftentimes your initial perception of some persons isn't accurate. First impressions can't always be relied on since a lot of people can deviously make themselves behave and appear in such a way to gain your approval. Pay attention to your gut instinct. If you feel guilty or slightly uncomfortable interacting with a particular individual, then it may be wiser to avoid or lessen meaningless interactions with them. 

9] Don't be afraid to make the first move when necessary, to speak up when doing so would please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala more than satisfying His servants, and to stand out when differing from the crowd or looking "weird" means doing something that leads to Allah's Love and Jannatul Ferdaus.

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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever abandons lies in support of falsehood, a house will be built for him in the surroundings of Paradise. Whoever abandons arguments even though he is right, a house will be built for him in its middle. Whoever makes his character excellent, a house will be built for him in its highest part."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1993

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the believer may reach by his good character the rank of one who regularly fasts and stands for (Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl) prayer at night."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4798

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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Note: Undeniable Signs That A Man Married A Righteous Muslimah

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Eleven undeniable signs that a Muslim male married a righteous Muslimah and she is a blessing for him in their journey towards Jannah Paradise: 

1] She is eager to study more about Islam and strives to apply the knowledge which she has learned for Allah's sake. 

2] She occasionally shares with her husband some links to Islamic websites, lectures and articles or reminders to say Du'a which she believes can benefit him. 

3] When he arrives from work, travel or gathering, she doesn't annoy him with the kind of questions which indicate she doesn't trust him at all.

4] Sincerely she treats his mother and relatives with respect, courtesy and empathy. 

5] Since she is confident and not insecure, she doesn't feel the need to constantly search through the contents of his phones and laptop, ensuring that she's "the only woman" in his life. She welcomes polygyny, as long as her husband can guarantee he'll treat his multiple wives as fairly as he can for Allah's sake.

6] She doesn't oblige upon herself to assign somebody to examine his loyalty, making silly pranks now and then to test how patient he truly is or creating fake social media profiles to check his fidelity. 

7] She has made it clear online and offline that she avoids unnecessarily chatting with male non-mahrams and befriending them on Facebook. Apart from controlling her gaze, she confirms from within, and Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows better, that she is a fiercely loyal wife who doesn't have romantic feelings for any human being other than the man whom Allah the Most Wise decreed to be her spouse and soulmate. 

8] She is not a golddigger. Even if there are times when he is incapable of providing enough for his wife/wives, she understands his financial struggles. Oftentimes she's willing to spend a significant amount of money on him when she's capable of doing so or at least patiently wait for the moment when he can be financially stable. 

9] Taking selfies, uploading her photos on social media and maintaining an account on websites where a lot of female users enjoy showcasing their beauty are some of the things she'd never want to do. 

10] As a compassionate listener who appreciates her husband's loving efforts to make her laugh and smile, she ensures that the way she communicates with him online and face-to-face is never disrespectful. 

11] Almost every night, whenever she is capable of praying, she makes effort to consistently pray Tahajjud Qiyaam Al-Layl, besides frequently waking him up to pray the obligatory prayers on time. 

Allah the Almighty knows best.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: Her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-five-signs-that-youre-tough-wife.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/tips-seven-things-which-inspire-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-nine-clear-signs-that-muslim-wifes.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-one-sign-of-disloyalty-and-how-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-as-your-husbands-loyal-wife-avoid.html 

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Tips: Things That Lead To Self-Sabotage Which We Should Avoid

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Seven things to avoid for Allah's sake as they lead to self-sabotage:

1] Living your life to please people instead of pleasing Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, or ensuring that you never disappoint anyone whom you love even if your decisions contradict what you value.

2] Spying on the lives of others, being obnoxiously nosy with regards to people's personal issues, or watching vlogs on a daily basis while forgetting about your own life and responsibilities, particularly your duties to Allah the Almighty.

3] Arrogantly looking down on those who aren't as good as you in terms of financial stability, appearance, educational background etc. and then getting intensely jealous when you notice someone else who's wealthier, more good-looking or more competent and skilled in a field that interests you.

4] Trying to entertain yourself by gossiping and backbiting about those whom you dislike and envy. Purposely not giving people their rights.

Every time you indulge in gossip and criticize another Muslim's flaws in a way to make themselves look bad, you only accumulate their sins while they earn the rewards of good deeds you did previously.

5] Worrying about your public reputation more than being concerned about how Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sees you. So instead of being contented with spending time with Allah through Dhikr, Qur'an reading and studying Islam, you walk around searching for groups to fit in and friends who can validate you.

6] Stubbornly doing the things which you know are haraam/forbidden. By indulging in sins such as deliberately lying, spreading rumors, and stealing, you only harm your soul.

7] Not doing good deeds for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and feeling disappointed when some people don't thank you, return your favors or do what you asked them to do.

When you aim to live your life in a way that pleases Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala,

 Inn-sha-Allah you can attain actual peace and contentment in both worlds.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-allah-almighty-controls-all-things.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-toxic-friendships-which-we-cease.html