Tips: What To Do During Times Of Fitna As A Muslim

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things to do during times of fitna: 

1] Strengthen your connection with Allah the Almighty and increase your faith/Imaan levels by seeking authentic knowledge of Islam regularly and implementing what you learn sincerely. 

2] Maintain Taqwa and do more good deeds which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves, such as praying Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl and Salat Ad-Duha, while striving to avoid the actions which Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam warned against. 

3] Continue to say Du'a and Dhikr as often as you can, specially lots of Tawbah and Istighfaar (asking for Allah's Forgiveness and saying "AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem"). 

4] Ensure that you attain Islamic knowledge from reliable sources. Stay away from bid'ah, extremism and anything which could lead to fitna directly and indirectly. 

5] Know when to speak (online and offline) or share ideas with wisdom and when it's safer to keep certain thoughts to yourself to remain safe and silent. 

6] Don't feel bad about being strictly selective and cautious regarding your choice of close friends. Loneliness or feeling like an outcast in society while still being loved by Allah the Most Loving is better than wasting energy socializing with untrustworthy companions who are a bad influence on your overall well-being. 

7] Always make sure that any information you intentionally absorb on the internet won't affect your faith/Imaan and personality in a negative way. Not everything you read, come across and watch must be taken at face value. If you can sense that something isn't right about a particular individual, content or webpage, then it may be wiser to distance from them for Allah's sake until you witness valid proofs that they are reliably in accordance with what Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam love.

Allah the Almighty knows best.

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📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Soon (some time before the day of Judgment) the best property of a Muslim will be a flock of sheep which he takes to the top of a mountain, or in the valleys of rainfall, fleeing with his religion from tribulations."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 19

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: We were gathered around the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam while he mentioned tribulations (fitna/fitan), saying, "If you see that people have disordered their commitments, diminished their trusts, and are as jumbled as this," and he interlaced his fingers. I stood to come near him and I said, “How should I act if that happens?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Stay in your house, control your tongue, accept what you know is good, reject what you know is evil, take care of your affairs specifically and abandon the affairs of the common people."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4343

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Miqdad Ibn Al-Aswad RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, the blessed person is one kept away from trials (tribulations / fitan). Verily, the blessed person is one kept away from trials. Verily, the blessed person is one kept away from trials. How good is one who is afflicted but bears it patiently!" 

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4263, Grade: Sahih

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-when-to-interfere-or-enjoin-good.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/Fitnah-Coping-With-The-Trials-Of-Our-Times-2021-3.0.pdf

Note: Checklist To Determine If Your Husband Is Actually Your Friend And Soulmate

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Eleven questions to ask yourself to feel certain that you have indeed married your soulmate for Allah's sake: 

1] When you look back on the first actual conversations with your husband, can you wholeheartedly smile as you recall his cute efforts to be romantic or flirtatious with you? 

2] Can you mention at least three instances when he has been helpful, kind and compassionate to you? 

3] Do you miss his comforting hugs and loving presence whenever he is absent? 

4] If you had the option to choose between staying over at a resort with some close friends for one week and moving to the city where your husband is employed, would you select the latter as long as you're granted consent to visit your family whenever you like? 

5] If you're incapable of completely satisfying your husband, can you be strong enough to stay married while he loves another woman as his legal second wife, because you'd rather keep loving him faithfully while you're in a polygynous marriage than have him disappear from your life? 

6] Whenever his responses to your calls and messages are delayed, are you able to understand his side and still forgive him for Allah's sake with astounding patience? 

7] Whenever you encounter or notice supposedly happy couples, instead of feeling jealous, do you instantly thank Allah the Almighty for bestowing upon you the unique love story which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined for you and your husband? 

8] Does loving your husband sincerely for Allah's sake beautifully inspire you to become a better, wiser, more mature, more patient and understanding Muslimah? 

9] Do you love it whenever your husband leads you in prayer and every time you hear an Imam reciting some verses from the Noble Qur'an you're usually reminded of your husband's amazingly soothing voice? Or if ever your husband asked for divorce, can you imagine rejecting all marriage proposals from interested suitors while patiently waiting for another wedding from your ex-husband, aware that divorcees in Islam can remarry twice?

10] Although you can't always meet your husband or go on halal dates with him, are you capable of staying fiercely loyal to him, avoiding "emotional affairs" and anything which could lead to fitna, even when he hasn't been around for a long time? 

11] Is it true that you've cried or shed tears many times while mentioning your husband's name in heartfelt Du'as, praying that Allah the Most Merciful protects him, guides him and enables him to pass Allah's tests so you can both succeed, with Allah's Will, in making it to Jannah Paradise? 

Allah the Almighty knows best. If you've answered "yes" to at least seven of the above questions, then it's likely true that your husband is your soulmate whom you should never quit on. Don't let the shaytan who envies your joy feel smug about his attempts to disrupt your obvious blessing.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/poem-what-is-it-like-to-love-your.html 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-tips-to-stay-contented-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-dismiss-shaytans-whispers-as-he.html 

Note: Avoid Envy/Jealousy.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Envy is what made the brothers of Prophet Yusuf 'alaihis salaam want to get rid of him even though he never really did anything wrong to them. It is also what caused shaytan to be cast out of Jannah Heaven when he refused to obey Allah's Command to bow down to Prophet Adam 'alaihis salaam. Jealousy is what makes a professor want to fail an intelligent and hardworking student. Additionally it is the reason why many women who lack self-esteem enjoy gossiping about those whom they're secretly jealous of.

If you're doing a good deed sincerely for Allah's sake, someone who envies your efforts and choice to never give up would falsely accuse you of ulterior motives. If you regularly share knowledge, enjoin right and forbid wrong, display enthusiasm in promoting your halal business, or you're kind to others, a person who hates you out of obnoxious jealousy may assume you're just pretending to be "all that", being self-centered or you're desperate to be admired by everyone you encounter. Don't allow your eagerness to gain Allah's Love be affected by such toxic people who can't recognize your positive qualities, who magnify your errors, and keep stalking your social media accounts to count only the negative factors about you. Instead patiently maintain good manners with them, while minimizing unnecessary interactions, and be grateful to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that you don't have their envious attitude which stems from being discontent with Allah's Qadr, being ungrateful for the unique gifts that Allah already gave, and feeling insecure.

📖 'Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

https://www.salafisounds.com/10-evil-consequences-of-envy-jealousy-by-abu-khadeejah/

Tips: Advice From An INTJ Wife To Avoid Adultery And Emotional Affairs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ personality type, what would you do if ever you found yourself feeling attracted to somebody who isn't your husband? What tips can you offer to shut down or subdue unwanted feelings of attraction? 

📝 Answer: 1] Alhamdulillah as my husband's loyal wife, if ever I found myself catching feelings of attraction to someone whom I can't marry, since I'm contentedly married to the man whom Allah the Most Wise has chosen as my soulmate, I'd frequently recall my husband's best qualities along with the main purpose of why I accepted his marriage proposal to be distracted from the person whom shaytan wants me to notice. 

2] I'd control my gaze, avoid staring at them for too long, and purposely minimize unnecessary interactions with the individuals whom I may find attractive. The more you interact with your so-called "crush" and prolong frequent conversations, the more your heart tends to cling itself to them. Fighting the urge to strengthen the emotional connection while minimizing pointless talks with them for Allah's sake to preserve your chastity can be rewarding and achievable with stubborn patience.

3] I remind myself regularly of all the unpleasant features or negative aspects about the person whom shaytan wants me to notice, so that the irrational feelings of attraction can, with Allah's Will, subside eventually. 

4] Occasionally, specially when fasting Sunnah fasts or praying Tahajjud, I'd beg Allah the Almighty to keep my heart far away from anything which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala dislikes, and also pray that whoever I'm "crushing on" will remain forever satisfied with their own spouse, or if they're single I'd ask Allah the Most Loving to grant them their own halal love story at the most ideal timing and hope they enjoy their own blessed marriage life, contented with Allah's Qadr/Decree. 

5] The more I remember how death can occur anytime and how awful the consequences of zina (fornication / adultery) are in reality, the easier it gets to emotionally disconnect from those whom my nafs may desire unlawfully. 

6] Whenever I must talk to an individual who seems attractive or attracted mutually, once in a while I'd say something to distract them from me such as "Please tell your wife I said salaam", "salaam to your wife", and "one day 

Inn-sha-Allah you too can have a soulmate". 

7] Listening to Islamic lectures, particularly concerning Taqwa, the characteristics of the true believers, and warnings against zina (fornication / adultery) is also an effective strategy to deter shaytan's plots and completely feel uninterested in pursuing a haraam relationship with somebody who isn't lawful for you.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for their bad thoughts within themselves as long as they do not speak of them nor act upon them."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287

Sahih Muslim 127

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever guarantees (the chastity of) what is between his jaws and what is between his legs, I can guarantee for him Paradise."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

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Hadith: Aim To Be Among The Special Seventy Thousand

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "My Lord (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) has promised me that seventy thousand from my nation will enter Paradise without reckoning or punishment. 

Along with every thousand are seventy thousand more, and three more immeasurable groups of His choosing."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2437

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/20063/%D8%B5%D9%81%D8%A7%D8%AA-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B3%D8%A8%D8%B9%D9%8A%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%81%D8%A7-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B0%D9%8A%D9%86-%D9%8A%D8%AF%D8%AE%D9%84%D9%88%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AC%D9%86%D8%A9-%D8%A8%D8%BA%D9%8A%D8%B1-%D8%AD%D8%B3%D8%A7%D8%A8 

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