💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
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🗒️ Three examples of behavior indicating that somebody is an actual narcissist (a person who seems so infatuated with themselves and doesn't care about people's needs at all):
1] An older woman who worked as a maid or housekeeper in the Middle East then after some years of working abroad she acts like a multimillionaire when she returns to the Philippines, being polite only with fellow snobs who are wealthy like her while obnoxiously showing uncivilized conduct to those whom she perceives as "inferior".
2] A "friend" who sometimes accompanies you to fancy restaurants and although you're the one who frequently pays for their meals, they eagerly upload photos of the beverages and edibles they've enjoyed to their social media accounts without mentioning or tagging you, as if they went dining solo and your money is theirs.
3] A group of status-conscious "friends" who started contacting you more regularly than before ever since you've established your own company or boutique, intending to take advantage of your financial success and generosity.
✅ Some advice on how to deal with actual narcissists:
1] As much as possible keep your distance from them online and offline. Don't bother browsing around their social media posts and comments nor inquire anybody about them. Avoid befriending real narcissists who try to build connections for their own selfish agenda.
2] If you have no choice but to begrudgingly hear them brag and boast in a social gathering, graciously smile at them with patience. Imagine being a kindergarten teacher patiently listening to a little kid desperately flaunting his scribbles as he makes up some fabricated stories.
3] Refrain from asking them personal questions if you can sense that their massive ego gets overly inflated every time they find opportunity to show off.
4] Don't let their tendency to treat you disrespectfully upset you. Simply pity them, understanding that they must be so emotionally disturbed that they feel desperate to bring you down to alleviate their distress or to distract themselves from their inferiority complex.
5] Allow their lack of good manners to inspire you to thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that you're not like them in being insecure, immature and unprincipled. Unhappy individuals only sabotage themselves when they confirm their jealousy or insecurities by treating others unethically.
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil.
By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance (kibr) is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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