Tips: Some Ways To Determine If A Person Is Just Pretending To Be Your Friend While In Reality They Despise You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Five signs that a person is just pretending to be your friend while in reality they despise you, to avoid wasting time, money and gifts on them: 

1] At least three years have passed since you've been acquainted and so far they have never invited you to a social event they were going to. 

2] More than thrice they have left your messages on "seen" mode as if they don't care enough to continue meaningful conversations or they're uninterested in building any connection with you. 

3] Most of the time when you ask them for advice they'd respond with "I don't know what to say", "well, that's your problem; you fix it", "can't think of a solution", "no comment" or "that's so sad. I'm glad I'm not you." 

4] A lot of times they look at you with an indifferent or annoyed glare, looking you up and down as if whatever message you need to convey doesn't deserve their attention yet ironically they expect you to listen attentively whenever they're talking. Interactions with them are mostly one-sided. 

5] When you're in a good mood and feeling confident, they perceive you as "annoying" or "arrogant". When you request for some assistance or words of encouragement, they regard you as "too needy" or "troublesome". When you've been absent from social media for several days or you didn't promptly answer the messages they've sent, they act distant or pridefully give you the silent treatment, instead of making effort to understand your situation. All in all they seem to enjoy manipulating and mishandling your emotions, so you don't feel at ease when you're near them. 

✅ How to deal with those who act friendly yet they don't truly like you from within: 

🔹Treat them as mere strangers. Apply good manners both in their presence (behave cordially) and absence (avoid backbiting). 

🔹Never trust them with your secrets, valuables and any information which they could misuse for gossiping. 

🔹 Abstain from checking their social media accounts and don't bother thoroughly reading their comments on the posts of mutual friends. If they're not willing to befriend you sincerely for Allah's sake while their vibes are more toxic than motivating, never go out of your way to analyze their unsubstantial opinions nor make sense of the fabricated stories they love narrating. 

🔹 View them as examples to avoid imitating. If they've treated you disrespectfully in the past, don't be rude and disrespectful to others. If they have been dishonest with you before, remain truthful and reliable.

🔹 Patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Decree that He didn't destine those souls to network with you. Sometimes when Allah the Most Wise allows you to emotionally disconnect from certain individuals, it's meant to protect your faith/Imaan and overall well-being from untrustworthy people with bad intentions. 

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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