Wednesday, June 8, 2022

Tips: Nine Signs That You Are Thick-skinned

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Nine signs that you're thick-skinned and Allah the Almighty blessed you with a strong personality: 
1] You don't doubt your self-worth nor act overly upset when some Facebook users unfriend you or reject your friend requests. 
2] You remain unfazed and unaffected when people criticize you, whether in a one-on-one setting or social gathering. Although you're capable of responding to insults with a clever comeback, most of the time you choose to ignore trolls and insecure individuals who may misconstrue your words.
3] You've been yelled at, scolded or laughed at several times but Alhamdulillah those incidents only inspired you to become tougher for Allah's sake and to move on confidently. 
4] You don't feel the need to keep anybody on your list of blocked users. After arguing with a user, if ever you get into an argument, you may block them temporarily to let them know you're uninterested in chatting further, then you unblock them after some days while staying away from stalking their social media posts. 
5] In general when somebody treats you disrespectfully, instead of wondering if there's something wrong with you, you analyze the possible reasons behind the disrespectful person's misconduct and thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that you're not as miserable as that person is inwardly. 
6] You're courageous enough to show up the next day at work or school, rather than hiding yourself and being absent, when you go through a situation which many people may regard as "embarrassing" or "awkward". 
7] You're not afraid to walk past individuals who had a misunderstanding with you nor are you scared to attend meetings or conferences which are attended by some acquaintances whose attitudes conflict with yours. 
8] You don't overreact irrationally when some users fail to answer your messages in a timely manner. 
9] You don't make it a big deal when some individuals didn't answer your salaam, aware that they're probably ignorant of how to properly exchange greetings in Islam or they were distracted by other tasks or thoughts.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Note: Some Tips On How To Deal With A "Broken Family"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Some advice to kids, teens and Muslims who can relate concerning "broken families" - what you can do to patiently deal with your mother and father being separated, particularly if one or both of them remarried, and you tried your best to reconcile them but they mutually moved on while still loving you: 
1] Look forward to attaining rewards for striving to have patience with what Allah the Almighty destined, as a Muslim who strives to accept Allah's Plans and Qadr/Destiny. Understand that whatever occurs in the universe only takes place because Allah the Most Wise allowed it, and there's always wisdom behind every occurrence even if we may not be able to grasp the reasons yet. 
2] While you can't fully control the actions, feelings and choices of your parents, you have the freewill to select how you can respond to your parents' decisions. As a Muslim, ensure that you behave in a manner which pleases Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and which won't lead to any sort of trouble in this world and the afterlife. 
So if your parents have made it clear that they're already contented with the new spouses, show both of them respect by not arguing with them regarding their remarriage. Maintain family ties with your mother and father even if they've decided to avoid one another to protect each other's emotional well-being. 
3] Try to put yourself in your parents' shoes. If you have finalized your decision to quit staying in touch with somebody who is too incompatible, unbearable and toxic for you, you wouldn't find joy in pretending to like them if some loved ones insisted that you remain connected. While you may enjoy dining out with two individuals whom you regard as friends but they despise one another simultaneously, those two would probably be better off and farther away from fitna and avoidable problems if you spent quality time with each friend separately, not in the presence of the person who triggers their bad moods. 
4] Confidently believe that your connection with particular individuals, or any of Allah's servants, has nothing to do with your entry to Jannah Paradise and passing Allah's tests. You can 
Inn-sha-Allah make it to Jannatul Ferdaus even if your parents are no longer married to each other and if any relative disowned you. In fact, on the Day of Judgment, and Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows best, you'll be more concerned about yourself, your deeds and the results of your actions much more than worrying if your family is complete or not. 
5] Sincerely continue doing Da'wah for Allah's sake to both of your parents and their families often, so that 
Inn-sha-Allah you can all succeed in deserving a beautiful entrance to Jannah Paradise where there will be no room at all for negative emotions including resentment, unjustifiable suspicion and jealousy - all instigated by our archenemy shaytan.
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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The bond of family (kinship) is suspended from the Throne and it says: 'Whoever upholds me, Allah will uphold him. Whoever severs me, Allah will sever him.'"
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5643, Sahih Muslim 2555
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Jubayr Ibn Mut'im RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The one who severs his family ties will not enter Paradise."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5638, Sahih Muslim 2556
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim