💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Some advice on dealing with negative feedback and criticism:
✅ If the criticism is valid, true and justified, while it was delivered appropriately with good intention (the critic wants you to improve and genuinely cares about you):
➡️ Be thankful for their concern and grateful for the many opportunities to become a better Muslim.
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✅ If the criticism is invalid, wrong and unjustified, while it was delivered inappropriately with bad intention (the critic just wants you to feel bad about yourself):
➡️ Completely ignore their absurd insults, avoid meaningless dialogues with them as much as possible, and learn not to be like them in being obsessed with fault-finding. Patiently persist in doing what you believe can please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala as long as you're not purposely harming anybody including yourself.
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✅ If the criticism is factual and there's good intention behind it but it was delivered wrongly:
➡️ Acknowledge that the criticism is valid. Don't be too arrogant to deny your mistakes. Request the critic to correct your errors next time in a more decent and morally acceptable way.
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✅ If the criticism is valid but its delivery and the actual motive behind it are wrong:
➡️ Benefit from the honest feedback. Utilize the criticism intelligently for self-improvement. Avoid envious critics and toxic pessimists for Allah's sake as much as possible.
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✅ If the criticism is clearly inaccurate and the negative comments don't describe you at all, but the way they were conveyed are seemingly considerate and those advising actually want what's good for you:
➡️ Clarify to the confused critics, with good manners, how they misunderstand the issue or explain to them politely how they're the ones who got it wrong.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is a mirror to his faithful brother. He protects him against loss and defends him behind his back."
Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, 'The believer is a mirror to his brother. If he sees something wrong in him, he should correct it.'
Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 239
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim