🗒️ Question: Jealousy is a very awful yet common trait among a lot of females which is why there's such thing as "frenemy" or "fake friends". Would you rather make a friend out of an envious female so their envy dissipates or totally avoid them once you detect all the obvious signs that they envy us?
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best.
An insecure individual who struggles with ugly jealousy is like a zookeeper or ophiophilist in charge of watching over a dangerous cobra. Even if you may assume that they can control the venomous snake, especially if they were already trained to deal with snakes correctly, being around them won't be very safe for your overall well-being. Thus, from my perspective, it's advisable to cleverly keep your distance from anybody who displays obvious signs that they're undeniably jealous - envious of your achievements which Allah the Most Wise has granted you, envious of your marriage life and your admirable bravery in allowing your husband to remarry, or even envious of your sincere efforts to do many good deeds for Allah's sake with Ikhlaas / sincerity.
Why bother attempting to become buddies with someone who secretly or clearly envies you, when anytime they could be tempted to act irrationally upon obnoxious feelings of deep-seated jealousy as after all they're human beings with a tendency to make mistakes occasionally?
'Tis better to stay safe and far away from unconfident individuals who are untrustworthy because they envy you a lot than to befriend a person who acts friendly while in actuality they're a real enemy.
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🟩 What to do when you realize that somebody's misconduct and mistreatment emphasize they're so jealous of you:
1] As much as possible keep your distance from them online and offline. Quit stalking their social media accounts, being interested in what they have to say and socializing with them unnecessarily.
2] Don't trust them at all, even if they act cheerful and "approachable" towards you. Do not take any of their statements seriously.
3] Never inform them about any of your dreams nor ask them for some advice.
4] Never be affected by their criticism, complaints and jokes about you. Understand that their efforts to annoy you could indicate they're struggling with feeling insecure, jealously threatened or inadequate.
5] Never confide in them about your worries, problems and secrets. Envious individuals may misuse the information you share for mockery or gossip.
6] If they ever borrow money and items from you, don't expect a timely response or the item they borrowed being returned in its proper condition. Good manners and loyalty are not to be expected from those who tend to easily envy other Muslims.
7] Feel sorry for them. Their discontentment with Allah's Justice and Wisdom is probably why they're unhappy inwardly. You don't need to get back at someone who's dealing with misery when they're already insulting themselves big time through jealousy.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do not envy each other, do not outbid each other, do not hate each other, do not turn away from each other, and do not outsell each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers. The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim. He does not wrong him, nor humiliate him, nor look down upon him. Righteousness is here," and he pointed to his chest three times. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is enough evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. The entirety of the Muslim is sacred to another Muslim: his life, his wealth, and his reputation."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2564
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it devours (removes) good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
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